Search For Innocence


Yesterday I was at a cafe which my husband and I frequented every weekend. Its a simple cafe with a cosy environment. Every weekend Cal and I promptly go there, sit at our corner table with the bench and chat for hours over the best iced tea in the city. It has been our routine since a while now. And I look forward to it every single time. Yesterday as we sat there talking, I was constantly distracted by a young crowd in front of me. Well not distracted, disturbed would be the right word to use. To start of, they were sitting at our usual table while we had to sit elsewhere. But that was not the only thing that was bothering me. Till now, I do not understand as to why I was so disturbed.

It was a group of four. One guy and three girls. None of them could have been over sixteen. The guy included. The guy was seated on the bench with one girl on either side and the other in front of him. All of them spoke in the local language and tried to behave normal. But to my eyes, there was nothing normal about them. They were kids, whiling away their free time in a cafe; but that was not what it seemed to me. The first girl, the one with a mole on her right cheek, kept swallowing one ice cube after the other from a glass. When I looked at their table I saw that it was loaded. With Appy fizz, Diet coke, some sandwiches and packs of cigarettes. There also was a tall glass filled with ice cubes and nothing else. The girl kept popping it into her mouth one after the other and the glass was empty within the next ten minutes. Is that normal?


The second girl, with the bright pink lipstick on her dusky face kept fondling the guy and kissing him. Before I could crib about over enthusiastic PDA, the third girl with the chubby cheeks leaned forward to kiss him. I almost dropped my drink in horror. The guy seemed to be enjoying all of it. At least, his smile said so. The first girl then lights a cigarette and lets the smoke out right into the guys mouth which is now open wide. I smelt the smoke, it was normal cigarette smoke and not dope. Well, thank God for small mercies in life. See, I have no problems with smoking. Girls or guys. I have tried all of it too a while ago, just to see what the whole hype about it was. In my early twenties, I just tried and then let go. But the scene in front of me was something else altogether. Excuse my use of words, but the first term that came to my mind when I saw the scene was 'Gangbang'. 

I did not see any phone around at their table. Nor did anyone fish one out of their bag. Soon all of them lit up cigarettes and kept passing it from one person to another. Yeah, just like passing the parcel, but with every player having a parcel of their own. They laughed and spoke at length as the guy's hands shifted from one girl to another. None of the girls seemed to mind though. They were all dressed decently. Why, the third girl wore a salwar kameez and had oiled hair. They did not make excessive noise or laugh out loud. No, nothing suspicious. But something about them was not right. The first girl suddenly butts her cigarette and sits up straight and pulls her T-shirt at her back to make it super tight in the front. The guy immediately feels her breast as if measuring its size as the other two girls looked on with a wide smile. My eyes popped out that minute. The look on the guy's face said it all. He felt like a hero.


She straightened out her T-shirt as the guy proceeded with his measuring act on the other two girls. They obliged with glee. More cigarettes were lit and passed and more ice cubes were consumed. Just when I thought that the act was finally mellowing down, the second girl puts her hand inside the guys shirt and starts feeling him. The third girl puts his fingers into her mouth. The first girl rests her face on his lap. Face down. I was too scared and shocked to notice as to what she was doing there. All this in public, mind you! Well the compound of the cafe would not let the passersby on the street see it, but the whole of the crowd inside the cafe were witnessing their sutra act. After more cigarettes and kisses, all of them walked out after paying their bill. They went Dutch, I noticed. Their body language was free and unapologetic. As they walked away I could see the hard bound notebooks inside their bags and their pencil boxes. I said a silent prayer.

I do not know what was happening there. I did not know how each of them were related. I do not know what they were talking about. In the forty five minutes that I watched them, I felt sorry for their parents and the non-motherly instinct in me got stronger. Maybe the generation gap has got wider since I passed my mid-twenties. Or maybe the world is moving too fast. I do not know what it is, but one thing is for sure. 


With everyone wanting to be a part of the "in" crowd, innocence has somehow lost its way today.

~ Soumya

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  1. That seems to be a pretty disturbing scene you seem to have witnessed. I really hope it's not what I'm thinking it was, feel sorry for them. All of them.

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    1. Extremely disturbing to say the least! I feel more sorry for their parents.

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  2. No.... !! you kidding me? I prayed all the while that this should be one of your fictions.. but I think not! :( the guy touched the girls' breasts and they allowed him to? This all sounded so rotten... Sheesh.. Call me orthodox or anything, but I am very saddened after reading this .... This is horrible and I feel really sorry for their parents.. I know what you mean when you say you were disturbed... Reading it gave me this feeling, i can imagine what it would have been like you watching this show live! :(

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    1. Its is a true incident that I witnessed with my own eyes! I lost my mind after watching it :(

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  3. WHAT THE HELL MAN!!! Where is the world heading to. I feel too old and aunty like after reading this. Because I do not find it cool and I know for sure that those kids did. JESUS CHRIST MAN!!!

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    1. Very sad state the youth are in! Imagine the next generation! Sigh.

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  4. I can't believe what I'm reading happened for real.. Maybe you are right it's the generation gap thing.. It's sad isn't it to see young bright people losing their way in today's world..

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  5. Did you happen to miss the the line on the menu which mentioned free porn show with every order of Iced tea :D

    In all seriousness, the lack of relate able role models and the general speed of life has changed the way people even in the same generation perceive things which leads them to exhibit such outlandish behavior. Innocence is long dead.

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    1. I probably did :P

      Forced to agree here. So the search is in vain.

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  6. What the hell!!! It is indeed very disturbing. But what is even more disturbing is that I too am a part of this generation...which makes me very, very sad.

    Innocence is losing its meaning in the process of being cool.
    And I blame entertainment media for highlighting whorefying examples to kids like Miley 'Twerking' Cyrus.

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    1. Oh yeah how could I not mention the Twerking here.

      The worse thing is we have no solution to this.

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  7. All right this is damn disgusting!!!
    I have heard such stories from my peers and it disgusts me a lot to think about the so called future generation
    Hey I am 17 and I have gone through twice such incentives which I was thankfully successfully able to say a no to but what I hear around is school going kids hanging around at each other's place only when their parents are not around and they do all kind of crazy stuff

    Its not generation gap for sure bcz there are so many 16 and 17 year olds like me who are really ashamed of such acts bcz then the whole "generation" is blamed and scrutinized

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    1. I agree. One rotten apple here is spoiling the lot!

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  8. Oh my God. 'Disgusting' is the word that comes to my mind. Generation gap or no generation gap, somethings are just not acceptable, atleast in public. Yes, your last line says it all, innocence has long lost its way.

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    1. Sad state we are in. God bless the future generation.

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  9. DARN! I HAVE GOOSEBUMPS!!! I too have witnessed many horrors of the Gen-next.. but this? this is ridiculously horrible... MY GAWD!! I mean seriously... why didnt u get up and slap them all and called their parents right away.... shit man, I feel like puking just reading about it, I wonder how u tolerated it all for 45 minutes... 45 whole minutes !!! I mean, ciggies and all are still tolerable...but gangbang! hell no!!
    I just pray that they find the right path before its too late ! may god be with them and show them the right path.. Amen ! :/

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    1. I was tempted to, believe me! I wanted to complain to the managers even, but even they witnessed the act without giving a damn.

      Hope is all we have left for them. Sigh.

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  10. Oh my! This is really disturbing ...ughh.. Just the act itself is bad enough and that too done in public (talk about lack of consideration)?

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  11. Its because of such idiots people have wrong assumptions about whole of our generation especially this age group. Whats even more annoying is when people who are looking at it blame it all on their parents and their upbringing. What do parents have to do in this? They still believe their kids are innocent. I would have told these guys to find a room!!!!

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    1. I was temped too, but that would have created a scene. Apart from the already happening one :D

      At some level, parents are to be blamed. They need to know what their kids are up to. Too much of independence smothers too.

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  12. strange..sad !! the line between morality and immorality seems to be getting dimmer with each passing generation. Thanks to the so-called "freedom of expression" and liberalism advocates.

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    1. Seriously! But do we have a solution?

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  13. I read this post twice. Just to let it sink in. I have some strong views about PDA and often refrain from it. But that is not really what this is about..

    I wonder you know, love, if they are aware of their actions. If these actions are informed consent then I doubt I can say much.. Often I feel an ache in my heart cause we aren't full prepared to accept how quickly society and its people are changing. Especially younger generations. We hear of more and more teen pregnancies.. It is also cause no one seems to want to discuss these things openly. Parents, friends, peers, teachers etc.

    As much as I want to be angry, I feel there is a need to open up conversation about it.. especially with kids that might be influenced by it. Cause even after the conversation if their behaviour doesn't change.. then at least we tried. But I would think even if you had attempted, you might have gotten stone walled by them because of this rebellious attitude.

    I know I am not making sense.. but i am trying so hard to understand better.. what pushed them..

    Are they aware truly? Are they happy? Do they not care? Is this what they want?

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    1. They were fully aware of their actions. In fact they made eye contact with me as they indulged in their act.

      I'm not too sure what they wanted out of it? Maybe they wanted me to think that they are awesome while I'm not. They are in serious need of a parent, teacher or a friend who shall initiate a conversation and talk to them about it. But who is willing to accept that their friend or daughter is like this? For all you know, these kinds might be behaving this way to get the attention of their parents.

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  14. *Shudders* I see in my University, openly the extent to which things go and I feel like I am old, from some Ancient Era, getting bothered by the acts. But I guess, as your post says - innocence is taken or given away willingly. Rather disturbing ya...

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    1. Ditto! The scene was so disturbing that I still haven't gotten over it yet.

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  15. My God! WHAT.WAS.THAT?? :O

    Reading it made me shiver with disgust, I can guess how disturbing it was for you :/ You put the last lines aptly!

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    1. Don't even ask. I'm yet to get over it!

      :(

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  16. OH MY GOD!!! What is happening to the world??? I feel like an alien now. This new world is scary and absolutely rubbish. Uhh... I have no words,

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    1. Neither did I. I'm just glad I grew up right!

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  17. Okay... It seems I am the only one with this comment, but I don't think I would do anything other than looking elsewhere and continuing with my life. Times are changing, and so are the newer generations... so what? The way I look at it is simple - back when I was growing up, I went out and did things which were frowned upon THEN. Those things sound very normal and everyday in present day scenario.. but back then people were alarmed, shocked, angry - you name it. Maybe this is what is frowned upon NOW. Tomorrow it will be something else. Both sets of people are evolving aren't they - the supposed wrong doers and the on lookers.

    Things like these happen in the west all the time. Nobody has the time to moral police people there, which is why they remain at a reasonable level on most occasions. I have always believed that because things like these are overtly scrutinised here in India, people sometimes just go all out and act like they have lost it. Happens with Indians who migrate to US all the time hahaha, I have had friends complain how its embarrassing to be around Indians who have suddenly found this new... freedom?. :)

    I think on some level, people have got okay with their sexuality in these times. People talk about sex, drugs and alcohol much more openly and unapologetically than they did a while ago. While I do not think there is anything wrong in what people think about their bodies and what they want to do with it (I mean come on there are SO MANY other things to get riled up about!) I understand that acts like these are shocking to onlookers. PDA has never been okay in our country and it will never be. Maybe getting a room would have helped.. but coming to your points about innocence. Who are we kidding? Do kids not already know what sex is? Do little children not have a colorful vocabulary these days already? Children make friends easily, there is dating and flirting and maybe even serious sex. Its in the movies, the songs, on TV and on the internet. It follows then that the word innocence itself is so subjective. :) Some food for thought eh?

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    1. I guess that's another way of looking at it.

      I too have heard tales about Indians in the west and all that jazz, I never thought that I would have to see teens have a gangbang in front of my eyes. Maybe its the movies, TV or internet, no matter what the source, the scene is disturbing as hell.

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  18. Basically we cannot blame this on the generation and say that the previous generation was pious and the future ones will not have any values. It depends on the character and circumstances the children live in. We had flirtatious men and women in every generation dint we? And we sure have level headed teens and well read youth even now. But this scene, in public is outrageous and I am sure ten to fifteen years down the line each one of this group will regret and will not be able to erase this from their heads. And its a pity everyone who were with you there at the cafe will not erase this from their heads either ...atleast for some time. But believe me Sowmya this type of atrocity is there in our generation as well we just dint know it. A trip to the Brindavan Gardens on a cool Bangalore evening, and another trip to a park at Mumbai at broad daylight taught me this. And people the age of my parents were doing this...it was more disturbing than you can imagine :-(

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    1. Oh poor you! I cannot even begin to imagine that scene :/

      I totally agree with what you say. Maybe we were so busy being nice that we did not notice what the others were up to. Sad state :(

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  19. First of all, I think it was totally unacceptable for the kids to be doing that in public, in a coffee shop. You should have called a manager.
    However, I am a,axed by the comments. Most people seem to think that the parents should be called and complained to. Well, after a certain age, parents no longer "own" their kids-in fact, they never own them in the first place-and people should be responsible for their own actions. People are also talking about the moral decay of this generation. Indeed, people are becoming more open with sex and relationships, but who are we to say that is a bad thing? Sexuality is in no way related to morals, unless cheating of any sort is involved. Commenters who say that loosening sexual mores are a sign of generational decay forget that your own sexuality affects NOONE except you. Compare this with corruption, which affects everyone. And yet we shame miley cyrus for twerking while forgetting our very own politicians who steal crores and crores of oublic funds. People need to get their priorities straight.
    I am not saying that what the teenagers were doing is acceptable, not in public at least. If they wanted to do it in private, that would be a different matter. However stupid we think their decisions may be, as long as It is consensual, we are in no position to judge.

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    1. The manager couldn't do anything as they were not troubling others!

      Your last line nails the truth!

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  20. This is the most disgusting thing I have heard of in the lines of PDA. When compared to this, PDA seems to be nothing. The feeling I got while reading what they did in a public place is that of puking! I don't mind the world going fast, but if it loses its innocence this way, then there'd be nothing to look around for in life.

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  21. Terrible state of affairs, Soumya. Sad that parents are totally ignorant of what's going on.
    As you rightly mentioned, the generation gap is getting wider.
    We can't blame movies for sparking this off. Rather, now reel life will be inspired by such real story! That's so sad & distasteful...

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    1. Totally agree on that! Movies are not that bad these days. Film makers are getting inspired by real like stories now!

      Sad state this is.

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  22. That was really disturbing. I feel I am from some age old generation. Where did this happen? Was it in India? God save the next generation!

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  23. Oh my gosh, Soumya. That was horrifying behavior. Amazing that my thoughts in the last post are so in sync with yours here. I also wonder if I have grown too old or if the world around me has gone berserk.

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    1. Atleast I'm glad that you did not have to see this Ma'm. Nothing is wrong with us, its the world that has gone to whole new level that we obviously are unaware of.

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