If you have known me even for a brief time you would know that I need my space no matter what. I'm not the one to interfere in anybody else's matters and I except the same from others too. 'Live and let live', is a really simple concept but none of us follow it. We live in a world where everyone has to judge everyone and encroach one an other's space as often as possible. I absolutely hate it when someone tries to make decisions for me or tries to give me unnecessary advice. I love my life and the way I live it. I do not bother anyone with anything. I am a financially independent woman and I choose to live my life the way I want without having to ask anyone for anything. But that's not the only thing live and let live is about.
Nothing drives a rift among friends like interference. Yes, friends do have a say in a few aspects of life but not all. They should not make decisions for you or try to impose something on you. Space is the most important thing in any kind of relationship. My choices are clearly different from the norm, but my friends accept that and do not judge me for it. My best friend and I are completely opposite in everything and yet we love and respect each other for the way we are. Judging a person for the choices they make is really stupid. Such a person does not deserve to be a friend.
Most families split mainly because of this. There always is one person in a family who wants to control the rest and get things done only their way. They want to be the central connect for everyone and want everything to go through them. They want to decide for everyone else and feel powerful. I feel sad for such people. They have nothing else in their lives to make them feel important. Such people should clearly be ignored. Everyone has a right to choose the way they want to live. If I'm not telling you what to do with your life, the least you can do is return the favor.
I've seen marriages breaking apart for the very same reason. A marriage is always between two people only and that is how it should remain till the end. The minute you have a third party (no matter how close they are) interfere, it goes downhill from there. Even the couple should share a healthy relationship and not smother each other. I love my husband like crazy, but I do have another life apart from what I share with him. I have my own set of friends whom I love and I go out to meet them as often as I can. It is not necessary that a husband and wife should always be together and do every activity together. My husband is totally fine with my guy friends and I have no qualms about him having friends who are girls. I do not question him about anything and he lets me be as well.
When you are in any sort of relationship, you need to accept the person as they are first. Then only take it to the next level. Constant interference and uncalled for advice is like suicide for any relationship. Enjoy your life the way you want to. Let others do the same too.
Live and let live! Is it too much to ask for?
Love this post. And as cheesy and simple as that sounds, I really do mean it. We need more live and let live in this world and also, to be honest, more offline interactions to keep life going. Too much of it is spent worrying what people will think and online, uff, don't get me started :) I love this post. Yes, I said that already.
ReplyDeleteVery well said. I know so many people who have judged me at every step of my life. There was this one lady who was very much interested in my love life. One fine day, one of my male friend was dropping me home on his bike after work. This lady happened to see this and after the guy left she came running up to me and asked me if he was my boyfriend. She keeps asking these type of question to every girl who is found roaming with a guy. I replied, "I will answer this question only and only if you agree to pay for my wedding." She was shocked and after that never dared to ask me anything.
ReplyDeleteYour post is a wonderful reminder for everyone to be aware of people like this woman.
I have heard so many cases of contention because of third party. I totally agree how marriage is between two people ... no one should come in between them and parents and relatives should know better than to interfere. I feel strongly about this.
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Twinkle Eyed Traveller
My reason for not interfering in other people's life is that I am not interested,I have too many things of my own and expect other ppl not to interfere in mine. It is irritating when someone pings you continuously and asks about your life. Dude, my life.
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Yep so true! the reason most relationships fail is because people expect others to start living life on their terms instead of accepting them for who they are.
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This is so important in our lives. A person's individuality and independence must be respected. I just love the way you have written this.
ReplyDeleteFrankly, if there were more people with Live-and-Let-live-attitude world would have been better place to live. Judging others and trying to bring them under one's control in the name of culture, age and what not is merely stupid. Time to break some rules. Cheers to the post!
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