tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post1077081961059809026..comments2024-03-06T13:41:15.527+05:30Comments on LOL: Life Of Leo: #FeministMondays | Default Skills And CharacteristicsSoumyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-6386287421989918612018-08-28T18:03:36.686+05:302018-08-28T18:03:36.686+05:30That's so sad na? Thank God for people who giv...That's so sad na? Thank God for people who give us an escape from the burden of these expectations. Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-49903374449326010242018-08-28T18:01:55.185+05:302018-08-28T18:01:55.185+05:30Ditto with me! People find it difficult to connect...Ditto with me! People find it difficult to connect with my thoughts because I apparently am "different".<br /><br />Childbirth and household chores is a choice. Not a compulsion.Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-91264999785877305202018-08-28T18:00:32.920+05:302018-08-28T18:00:32.920+05:30I hear you, Naba. My SIL is going through the same...I hear you, Naba. My SIL is going through the same thing now. It is such a stress for the woman. The injections and medications ruin the body in so many other ways. Women need to understand that procreation is not the only thing they are born for. Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-61257807607159132412018-08-27T11:57:58.030+05:302018-08-27T11:57:58.030+05:30What nonsense! Why do women take it upon themselve...What nonsense! Why do women take it upon themselves to be so domestic? Once this mentality leaves women, then it probably will leave men as well.Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-32481986376488139862018-08-24T12:26:14.046+05:302018-08-24T12:26:14.046+05:30Not fast enough, KP Sir. I hope the dynamics chang...Not fast enough, KP Sir. I hope the dynamics change at a steady pace soon. It is hard to get it out of the minds of some women that they are born to serve. Almost impossible in some cases.Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-84816527162765662012018-08-24T12:23:31.601+05:302018-08-24T12:23:31.601+05:30My heart goes out to you Anamika, but I'm glad...My heart goes out to you Anamika, but I'm glad that you have made your peace with it. It is good that you are teaching your son this as he grows up. It is of utmost importance.Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-72179974167867042652018-08-24T12:21:17.321+05:302018-08-24T12:21:17.321+05:30Oh yes, Rachna. You are blessed in the in-law depa...Oh yes, Rachna. You are blessed in the in-law department then. Back at our place a woman's place is expected to be the kitchen and the man is mocked if he even prepares a meal. Kudos for bringing up your boys the right way!<br /><br />I love talking about everything under the sun. Hell with the others, let us meet soon and celebrate :)Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-28386796097791392262018-08-23T18:36:13.503+05:302018-08-23T18:36:13.503+05:30You said it, Jay! We are very far away from equali...You said it, Jay! We are very far away from equality because of the mentality of many others. Why expect a woman to have default skills? Do we expect something from men the same way?Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-30103199077689452262018-08-23T18:34:11.549+05:302018-08-23T18:34:11.549+05:30It is so sad, isn't it that a woman's wort...It is so sad, isn't it that a woman's worth is still based on if she can cook or not? I'm so proud of you for giving these morons a piece of your mind. People seriously need to learn to mind their own business. Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-77496151552134007072018-08-19T20:32:19.609+05:302018-08-19T20:32:19.609+05:30You touched a raw nerve with this one. It just get...You touched a raw nerve with this one. It just gets infinitely worse if you decide to give up full time work and career. It is assumed that you'll be good at cooking and will enjoy cleaning and that your home will be spic and span at all times. That I simply might not enjoy housework is beyond everyone's comprehension. Mercifully I have friends and family who enjoy books and conversations and value the work that I do or else I'd probably have died from annoyance.Obsessivemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06659233519392456624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-10696257665083136222018-08-16T13:29:45.658+05:302018-08-16T13:29:45.658+05:30I see why I don't have many friends 😅 the one...I see why I don't have many friends 😅 the one time someone asked me to have a baby instead of traveling, I never called them back. <br />Thankfully, I don't have to deal with all this BS here. But I know that my parents have to listen to a lot of stereotypical comments from relatives about me being childfree now. They don't tell me about it, but I come to know about it anyway and it makes very sad. <br />You be the awesome Leo you are. Breaking stereotypes and changing thoughts . Rajlakshmihttps://www.pixelatedtales.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-29625964965501663152018-08-16T13:01:50.358+05:302018-08-16T13:01:50.358+05:30You know, Soumya, I have so much to say on this to...You know, Soumya, I have so much to say on this topic. But you probably know where I stand. One example of this expectation is how a colleague has been made to believe that she needs to give birth to a child to fulfill her purpose of being a woman or being married. When we suggest that she can always adopt a child if she wants one so much and she is not being able to naturally she goes into the tangent of what the society will say. In fact, she had even made herself believe that it is her shortcoming that she is not being able to conceive naturally. That's why she is putting herself through so many treatments and stretching her self financially , stressing herself out. If only she could look outside of the society's expectations her life would have been so much easier. Sigh!Nabanitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05958307546734785806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-27316356454793219982018-08-15T19:59:04.459+05:302018-08-15T19:59:04.459+05:30Rules rules and more rules is what we women come a...Rules rules and more rules is what we women come across on all times. I am those who hate cooking.. .yes.. I just dont enjoy it and it is the most mundane task as per me. So well I dont take interest in baking, nor in searching up new recipes. MEntioing this to a friend, who shot back saying,"How will you run your family? What do the kids eat?"... My husband is never asked if he likes cooking.. It gets on to my nerves.. But well, people do talk and ask questions. Just take it from one ear and leave it from the other. Life your life the way you deem best! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-60813642979309822422018-08-15T13:14:17.960+05:302018-08-15T13:14:17.960+05:30The mindset is changing albeit slowly. Thanks to e...The mindset is changing albeit slowly. Thanks to education, economic independence and exposure to the world outside home and increased awareness, the old attitudes and ideas are yielding place to equality and parity in all aspects atleast in urban areas.Sometimes women themselves are willing accomplices to the subservient roles!KParthasarathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189924874350906456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-13565374841678443392018-08-14T16:05:45.035+05:302018-08-14T16:05:45.035+05:30I have gone through majority of the experiences yo...I have gone through majority of the experiences you have enumerated in the post and it saddens me to revisit the memory lane. Gradually with time, I began to equate all the biased questions as bullying and decided I am not going to have any more of it. Yes, I cook (and do a lot more) though I don't like to (atleast not doing it 3 times a day 7 times a week) because my husband wasn't taught to or groomed to or prepared to take charge even if the woman in his life gets sick. It is disturbing but this is my set-up which I can do nothing about. The thing I can do is to encourage and teach my son every aspect of managing the house on his own with time. Anamika Agnihotrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16153091934373383608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-24214840503084191402018-08-14T08:27:09.643+05:302018-08-14T08:27:09.643+05:30I completely agree with you. Like you I enjoy cook...I completely agree with you. Like you I enjoy cooking but my husband likes cooking too. He cooks pretty often which is nice. Luckily my in-laws encourage that men should be cooking. He is better at cleaning and organizing than me. I've never cherished a dusting cloth and I try to pass on that core to anyone who is willing. I have initiated my sons into cooking and cleaning because they are not gender-specific tasks. And seriously I love to discuss career, politics, sports. Some women are so boring. All they talk about is husband, kids and in-laws. There is so much more to being a woman than being domestic. Rachnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02275266551382931603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-20663099122422517462018-08-14T01:17:38.213+05:302018-08-14T01:17:38.213+05:30I agree with many points you have made here. When ...I agree with many points you have made here. When people ask if I know to cook and why I am not multi-tasking, I feel like asking them to shut up and mind their own business. With a child in hand, people only expect me to double up and get things done, but do not see the point to help. To those who decide to be child-free(correctly said), I appreciate their decision. It takes time to decide something as important as this one. I don't see a point in birthing a child and blaming them all the time for their inability to run their lives properly.<br /><br />I know of people who think and act like women are born only to cook and pop out children. They do not let women join in basic conversations too. I feel such men are sick and must get a life. I pity them for their inability to accept a woman's growth and their insecure feeling. As I read your post, I felt how boiled up you would have been. I feel the same seeing those imbeciles. The thing is, there is no point in explaining to them. That's the worst thing. We can spare sometime to let them know what we think, but they hardly listen. Such people are not worth sharing our words with. I also wonder what only to do with such idiots then. <br />Jayanthyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17475073553784304169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-57146615957900737562018-08-14T00:58:47.447+05:302018-08-14T00:58:47.447+05:30I can relate to so many points here. I have always...I can relate to so many points here. I have always hated cooking. Infact I still do not like entering the kitchen. My husband can cook a decent meal but it used to get a little difficult for him on those days when he had energency night duties or 24hrs duty (he's a doctor). So we agreed on hiring a cook. The first time that we had few people visiting from his side (not fil and mil-there are nice), I was bombarded with sarcastic comments about not being domestic enough. After a couple of times, we gave them a piece of our mind and that stopped. But this is always a continuous struggle for a woman. Sonia Chatterjeehttps://soniasmusings.comnoreply@blogger.com