tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post6245908132787335527..comments2024-03-06T13:41:15.527+05:30Comments on LOL: Life Of Leo: #FeministMondays | Let's Start At The Very BeginningSoumyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-63915715536299874022017-07-22T22:08:36.857+05:302017-07-22T22:08:36.857+05:30Simple yet powerful ! Yes a lot of women say '...Simple yet powerful ! Yes a lot of women say ' Oh we are not feminists '. AS if F word is a tabboo. Everybody should be feminist, even men. Just another rant bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162861542622641602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-7914792853009994932017-07-12T12:37:28.453+05:302017-07-12T12:37:28.453+05:30Women need to understand feminism better and imbib...Women need to understand feminism better and imbibe the same in their children. Women need not accept that they always come behind a man. No sir, no!<br /><br />Yay, Parul! Looking forward to your post next month :)Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-19993176175356342482017-07-12T12:36:16.795+05:302017-07-12T12:36:16.795+05:30Well, let's hope it does change somewhere down...Well, let's hope it does change somewhere down the line. If there is one set of people who need to know about feminism more, it has to be MILs. Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-54804357801029588722017-07-12T12:34:18.560+05:302017-07-12T12:34:18.560+05:30Ah those kind. I know of so many women who run aft...Ah those kind. I know of so many women who run after their sons/husbands with handkerchiefs and keys. Annoys me to the bone. Filmy yes, yet very realistic and prevalent. <br /><br />Thank you Tulika. Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-91233698745331712992017-07-12T12:32:56.307+05:302017-07-12T12:32:56.307+05:30No! That's not what feminism is about. I'm...No! That's not what feminism is about. I'm glad you got it now :)<br /><br />Equals in a marriage is always the key.Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-58409599312558452852017-07-12T12:31:47.406+05:302017-07-12T12:31:47.406+05:30The type of women you both have mentioned are the ...The type of women you both have mentioned are the reason why I loathe a certain breed of housewives. It is sad that some women accept that the men should take care of them and call this feminism as well. Feminism should also be about how women should not take advantage of the gentlemen.<br /><br />Actually, this is what I have planned for my next post on this topic. Maybe you both should write about it too.Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-65803254195767592222017-07-12T12:28:37.738+05:302017-07-12T12:28:37.738+05:30Yes, women need to stand up and make the changes a...Yes, women need to stand up and make the changes and not just succumb to age old traditions and norm.<br /><br />Thank you, Naba. Let's hope more women join in and spark a change.Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-13133956618367007492017-07-12T12:27:39.942+05:302017-07-12T12:27:39.942+05:30Oh you are so lucky to have been surrounded by suc...Oh you are so lucky to have been surrounded by such strong women. Let's hope that women realize their true value soon and imbibe the same in their sons and daughters as well.Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-48706685750106171322017-07-12T07:55:47.649+05:302017-07-12T07:55:47.649+05:30I actually have seen these type of women, Nisha, a...I actually have seen these type of women, Nisha, and they sickening me. I know of a lady who was boasting that her husband does two jobs while she splurges on clothes, jewellery, gym etc. No one speaks up for such women. I know of girls who throw the victim card at में when they come from privileged backgrounds. It is happening sadly. Rachnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02275266551382931603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-62354600703945229902017-07-11T21:42:36.715+05:302017-07-11T21:42:36.715+05:30That's a fabulously honest post and you know I...That's a fabulously honest post and you know I couldn't agree more. The image that you shared is so so powerful. And isn't it such a reality? <br />While I totally agree that every woman should be a feminist, the challenge is women accept things for themselves and their daughters. They think that's what their life and fate is. They don't speak up for themselves and that not fair. <br />VT is very supportive but he isn't too hands on. The good thing is I'm also not expected to be :) <br /><br />I'll also join this tag Soumya! Parulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933210393492294463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-14865493802373360072017-07-11T11:48:08.657+05:302017-07-11T11:48:08.657+05:30The whole term and concept of feminism has been di...The whole term and concept of feminism has been distorted. What the term tries to.denote is equal rights opportunities for all irrespective of gender sans stereotypes of any kinds. I aint surprise to know though that people still turn down marriage proposals because the girl is working. My MIL too expected me to be this super girl, with a magic wand in my hand. I had a full time job when i was newly married.. She would want the house clean, cooking done and get back home and then dinner and cleaning up. Ofcourse she would help me , but the husbands are never asked to help out. I would throw a fit at this, but well... the system didnt change much..... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-26626523053627891912017-07-11T10:42:17.565+05:302017-07-11T10:42:17.565+05:30What a powerful post Soumya. We were brought up by...What a powerful post Soumya. We were brought up by a feminist mom. She might not have thought of labelling herself a feminist but she sure is one and so when I grew up and saw women laying out their husband's clothes in the morning and running after them with their wallet and keys I thought it was just a filmy thing. I was shocked to realise it actually happened in real life. My husband had a more traditional upbringing but mercifully he doesn't want me to handle all the housework - he's one for outsourcing and I'm mostly okay with that. Glad you took this up and looking forward to more of your posts.Obsessivemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06659233519392456624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-41979020110396074612017-07-11T09:25:49.622+05:302017-07-11T09:25:49.622+05:30And I thought I wasn't a feminist... because I...And I thought I wasn't a feminist... because I thought feminist meant wanting to be a working woman. No, not necessarily! If feminism means equal rights, then Absolutely! I am equal in every way to my husband. We work together to create a dynamic that works for us as a partnership. For us, that means he earns the income and I manage the household, but he's under no delusion that we couldn't switch places. We could! We have actively chosen not to.<br /><br />It's funny, he sometimes does things that look chauvinistic from the outside. But what he's actually doing is letting me know, "this is how you can show me love in this moment." How do I know this? Because we sat down and talked about it, privately but openly. As with all things, my spouse and I communicate what we need from the relationship as well as what we are willing to give. That's how a woman can be treated equal in a marriage.JEN Garretthttp://lexicalcreations.weebly.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-46847585013496473732017-07-10T23:30:03.231+05:302017-07-10T23:30:03.231+05:30I don't understand feminism very well. I love ...I don't understand feminism very well. I love it when we behave equally because that is how it should be, but lately I have seen so many women taking advantage of this hence making me confused about the whole aspect. <br />I have friends who earn but do not contribute to the household. Instead, they 'save' everything. Women who are housewives hire full-time help and spend their time socialising and shopping saying that these chores are lowly and their education doesn't allow them to do the same. <br />The Boy has gone out for dinner with his colleagues right now, but the women will not pay. Why? They are trying to be gentlemanly about it, but shouldn't these women insist!?<br /><br />I feel that these are the same women who live with the best men in our society to whom feminism come naturally. These men should be rewarded (just for example, not because they are doing something extraordinary!) and not taken undue advantage of. Feminism should talk about this as much.Nishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17818499080695379994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-51406841810660895872017-07-10T19:11:56.126+05:302017-07-10T19:11:56.126+05:30I agree completely and wholeheartedly agree, Soumy...I agree completely and wholeheartedly agree, Soumya. I read in Lean In, I think, about the maternal gatekeeper behaviour that we exhibit. We don't let men do anything at home that is also a problem. It starts in a single house, every single house and becomes a norm in society. That's why it is so important that women of our generation make the changes at home. <br /><br /><br />I'm so happy that you decided to join this small yet very important endeavour, every bit counts. Let's hope we are able to bring some change, maybe in the life of one woman but still.Nabanitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05958307546734785806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-86651762424134169702017-07-10T17:40:20.097+05:302017-07-10T17:40:20.097+05:30I am with you on this, Soumya. I am a feminist and...I am with you on this, Soumya. I am a feminist and proud to be one. After all why would I want to be lesser than any one else. My mum was a housewife but she was the queen at home. Dad and mum were very equal in decision making. She handled the home, he brought the money home. And there was immense respect and love for each other. My siblings and I were brought up to be independent, working women. I have a partner who does so much at home and is a very hands-on dad. He was brought up by a working woman after all. I do agree that many women just consider being treated as second rung normal because this is the normal that they have been exposed to and then they raise their sons to carry the tradition forward. Let's hope that drop by drop can change perceptions. Rachnahttp://www.rachnaparmar.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-73058059284409249422017-07-10T17:37:44.318+05:302017-07-10T17:37:44.318+05:30Exactly, right? Ah don't get me started on the...Exactly, right? Ah don't get me started on the respect and age bit! Respect comes with deeds, not age! Gosh, will they ever understand.<br /><br />Nice to see her here, Ani :)Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-44049179319127067662017-07-10T17:36:35.298+05:302017-07-10T17:36:35.298+05:30Thank you so much Shy! I have seen how awesome you...Thank you so much Shy! I have seen how awesome your husband is on Insta :). You definitely must be proud of him.<br /><br />Looking forward to you post soon. Soumyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439590494620390907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-31810866963140018982017-07-10T17:26:25.444+05:302017-07-10T17:26:25.444+05:30Today's post echoes the sentiment of so many i...Today's post echoes the sentiment of so many indian women! Just because something has been followed forever, doesn't make it right! That's so true!! And people need to stop expecting us to respect them just because they are older hence wiser.. Age never guarantees wisdom. Thankyou for writing this! Needs to be spoken about! :)Anitha Kozhisseryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10539754803037961943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9140698802730756464.post-1874175466404322782017-07-10T17:12:16.890+05:302017-07-10T17:12:16.890+05:30I loved this post. For one thing, I completely agr...I loved this post. For one thing, I completely agree with you on the meaning and interpretation of Feminism.Never mind that social media has completely blown things out of proportion and people are going hammer and tongs at each other over this term. Equality. It's as simple as that. I am proud to be married to a man who believes in equal responsibility. He cooks, cleans, stitches, takes care of Gy just because he can. Nothing major about it. I work because I enjoy it not because I must and I couldn't do it if I was expected to do everything under the sun in addition to working too. I am keen on writing something on this series. Let's see if I can get a post out next Monday.Shailaja Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12639542621638996802noreply@blogger.com