Gandhiji said, "Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes". I totally agree with it. Just one clause, You make a mistake, accept it. Don't try to cover it up. A person who makes a mistake, accepts that what he/she has done is wrong, genuinely regrets and asks for forgiveness, deserves to be forgiven. Its takes great guts for a person to accept their own mistakes. After all you have to live with it for the rest of your life. You learn from your mistakes true. But its also true that until it happens to you, you wont realise that its a mistake. Life teaches you a million lessons and most of these come from experience. My funda is simple. 'Always accept your mistakes before someone else goes out and exaggerates them'. There wouldn't be a single person out there who has not committed any mistake. Ohh comeon its been an age old fact that 'To err is human'. Aren't we all. Every learning lesson in life evolves from a mistake.
Some say that people who fear to make mistakes hardly do anything with their lives. But failure to learn from one's mistakes will lead one to commit the same mistake again. There's got to be a balance somewhere. Mistakes are unavoidable. Its the aftermath that matters. A great quote I found. "If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. What we call failure is not the falling down but the staying down". I mean, this cannot be more true. We often think that if we could go back in life and rectify a few mistakes we made, we surely would. However, now that is next to impossible, we may as well as try to make the best of it now. What is a mistake? Its an action you did which made you repent later. So whats the best you can do? Never do that again and that's a lesson well learnt. How hard is it?
Life is a long journey and no saint has made it through without committing a mistake. Life is all about making mistakes. Realisation is what mistakes to learn from. Sometime ago I wouldn't be the person who would listen to all such things, let alone think about it or write about it. But when reality strikes you, you are left with nothing but the guilt of what you have done. If I could I would just go back and undo it. But my mistakes only helped me learn and realise the importance of people in my life. That's only because I was willing to accept that I went wrong. Yes, the girl who lived half her life thinking that she could never go wrong, was actually wrong. I made a huge nightmare of a mistake and am repenting till now. But that has helped me grow as a person. I would never ever, no matter under any circumstances make such a mistake again. I have seen the consequences and will never let that happen again. I accepted my mistake yes. Every single bit of it. I dint feel ashamed or anything. That's because I knew what I had done is wrong. My mindset, emotional dependency and temper has put me into a lot of trouble. Umpteen number of times I've repented and tried to sew the broken ends. Succeeded sometimes, failed the other times. But I accepted my fault and tried. That's what counts. Thanks to all these episodes in life, now I'm a changed person. No these things dint happen over night. It was over a duration of time that these realisations dawned and helped me become the better person I am today. Patience, which was never one of my virtues is my trademark now. Boy, I really really worked hard on this one. My friends ask me how on earth did you manage to do that and I have no answer. Understanding, the thing I lacked most initially comes naturally to me now. I was a super stubborn creature wanting what I wanted by hook or crook without being bothered about others' problems. But now the first thing I do is put myself in their place and look at things from their side and decide on what to do. I've got so used to this now that people actually take advantage of it and have taken me for granted :-(. But I cant change myself now. I know I'm doing right, and people can do whatever they want. Sometimes, there comes a point in your life where people become so selfish that they wouldn't mind jeopardising existing relationships or manipulating you to get their things done. That's when and why I learnt that I need to be emotionally independent. Its really hard for someone like me, but I'm improving bit by bit. So here, I've realised my faults, accepted it and am doing something about it. Lost enough because of my foolishness. Not anymore. Not anymore.
There are some cases where I've seen people who are proud of their mistakes. "I know I'm wrong, but that person deserved it". This doesn't make sense what so ever. No one gives you the right to hurt anyone. My friends tell me that my problem is that I'm too good to people. I do things with only good intentions and except the same from them. But that's not how the world works. I've been used and my feelings shattered and manipulated by God knows how many. The world apparently is a very bad place. You need to learn on your own to survive. Make mistakes, take it positively and learn from them. Never be weak. Making mistakes only make you stronger. And for God's sake never make them again. That's foolishness and you'll be in trouble forever.
Also, never expect people to be like you. Each one is a species all together. You may accept your mistakes and try to cope up, but don't expect people to forgive you all the time. You try your best and if your worth it, they will. The whole point of this post is to accept your mistakes. Please don't try to cover it up. It only makes things worse. Be honest and don't lie. Its something that you have done. Why deny that? How can you live with yourself denying something that you have done and are well aware of. Just accept it and get it out of your system. You will feel really light trust me. Mistakes are committed due to weakness of something or the other. Don't argue for other people's weaknesses. Don't argue for your own. When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn from it ----- IMMEDIATELY.
Some quotations that make sense.
1. A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
2. An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field.
3. As long as the world is turning and spinning, we're gonna be dizzy and we're gonna make mistakes.
4. Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.
5. Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.
6. It's always helpful to learn from your mistakes because then your mistakes seem worthwhile.
7. Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it's a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from.
8. Mistakes, obviously, show us what needs improving. Without mistakes, how would we know what we had to work on?
9. Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don't quit.
10. The man who makes no mistakes does not usually make anything.
11. The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.
12. There is a certain degree of satisfaction in having the courage to admit one's errors. It not only clears up the air of guilt and defensiveness, but often helps solve the problem created by the error.
13. When you make a mistake, admit it. If you don't, you only make matters worse.