Holier than Thou'

Ever since his video was aired on all local news channels an ordinary saint(?), Swami Nithyananda became a nation wide hero. Well for good or bad reasons who cares. After all any kind of publicity is good. Actually I care two hoots about what this guy did. What annoys me is why is this guy being given so much importance. He's just an ordinary person at the end of the day and why bother what he does in his personal space. The worse thing was when the media aired the sleazy video on all new channels, that too on Prime time. For God's sake, there are teenagers and kids watching TV at those times. But why would they bother. They need to run their show right!

That Swami is no less either. I had never even heard of him until he decided to show up in the most inappropriate way possible. The Tamil actress in the video is now tainted for life. I wonder what was she thinking. I have seen the video and I don't see her being forced to do anything out there. Its very 'Godly' of her to take care of him and feed him medicines, still there should be a limit for taking care too. Video taped or not, I don't see the need for her to indulge in such ghastly acts. Well whatever she was thinking, I bet she dint think that she would land in such a soup.

Why is the Swami denying that its not him in the video? Well, it clearly is him. Cant he just accept it and be done with it. I don't think all priests and saints take a vow of celibacy. He could just accept that and in turn sue the guy who captured his antics as it is nothing but invasion of private life. But no, he decided against it and kept changing his statement each day. First he said that it was not him in the video. If it wasn't him then why was he on the run. When he was caught in Simla he said that he was learning and practising the ancient tantrik secrets. Supposedly, the so called 'ancient tantrik secrets' are a part of the programme called 'Learning from the Master Programme'. If that's the case I cant help but wonder who and how the master will be.

It seems that many people actually volunteer for this particular 'programme'. And whoever join it have to sign something called as a 'non-disclosure agreement'. This agreement apparently has many clauses. One of which is shown below.

"Volunteer understands that the Program may involve the learning and practice of ancient tantrik secrets associated with male and female ecstasy, including the use of sexual energy (??) for increased intimacy/spiritual connection, pleasure, harmony and freedom. Volunteer understands that these activities could be physically and mentally challenging, and may involve nudity, access to visual images, graphic visual depictions, and descriptions of nudity and sexual activity, close physical proximity and intimacy, verbal and written descriptions and audio sounds of a sexually oriented, and erotic nature, etc."

I wonder why would any self respecting person sign such an agreement to seek God. Well if this indeed is a valid clause then the Swami's act is totally justified. He can just state that and be free and free us from reading his crazy statements as headlines everday, or watching him as breaking news on any channel. But today I was stumped. As I opened my door in the morning to collect the paper, I saw a caption that said 'I'm not a man'. I was like who is that, after I saw the 'who', I realised that who else can it be. This is the heights to which a person can go to deny something. Then we have the police checking his passport which claims his sex to be 'male' and not 'transgender'. Well, in his defense he surely looks like one though.

Look Mr. Swami Nithyananda, you maybe a man, a woman, a trans or even God himself, but please keep your antics to yourself. As you said that you are here to take us beyond words, oh trust me, you surely have. I had no idea who you were and I seriously miss those days. Please cut us some slack and save the newspapers for some meaningful news. Like the Sania-Shoaib saga and Lalit Modi - Shashi Tharoor feud, we seriously are tired of the mess you have put yourself in. As they say, 'Jaisi karni, waisi bharni', you need to pay for the things you did. ALONE.

The Butterfly Effect

Before a butterfly can emerge out of it’s chrysalis it has to go through a lot of struggling. Yes, struggling. Each time it lunges out to escape, acids are being removed from its wings. If someone were to come along and break the chrysalis open for it then the butterfly would die from those acids. In essence the struggle is necessary for the butterfly to survive. Then in the stillness, when the struggle is over, the butterfly can come out and share its beauty with the world.

We as humans are not any different. There are times that we need to struggle, to rid ourselves of the acids that make up sadness, fear, and anger. It is only at this time when we are exhausted and still, that we begin to hear the Universe whisper to us.

Seven Wonders of the World

Junior high school students in Chicago were studying the Seven Wonders of the World. At the end of the lesson, the students were asked to list what they considered to be the Seven Wonders of the World. Though there was some disagreement, the following received the most votes:

1. Egypt's Great Pyramids
2. The Taj Mahal in India
3. The Grand Canyon in Arizona
4. The Panama Canal
5. The Empire State Building
6. St. Peter's Basilica
7. China's Great Wall

While gathering the votes, the teacher noted that one student, a quiet girl, hadn't turned in her paper yet. So she asked the girl if she was having trouble with her list. The quiet girl replied, "Yes, a little. I couldn't quite make up my mind because there were so many." The teacher said, "Well, tell us what you have, and maybe we can help."

The girl hesitated, then read, "I think the Seven Wonders of the World are:

1. to touch...
2. to taste...
3. to see...
4. to hear... (She hesitated a little, and then added...)
5. to feel...
6. to laugh...
7. and to love.

The room was so quiet, you could have heard a pin drop.

May this story serve as a gentle reminder to all of us that the things we overlook as simple and ordinary are often the most wonderful - and we don't have to travel anywhere special to experience them.

Enjoy your gifts!


These are some of the shortcuts in messages or mails that I absolutely hate.

1. 'Ma' for 'My' - I mean its the same number of characters, and 'y' is much closer to 'm' than 'a'.

2. 'Wnt' for 'Want' and 'Wont' - The recipient is expected to make a wide guess regarding what the sender wants or wont do.

3. 'Luv' for 'Love' - When you are telling someone that you love them, the least you can do is get the word right.

4. 'Sry' for 'Sorry' - If you want to apologise, please do so whole heartedly and please use the whole word.

5. 'Tnx' for 'Thanks' - Again, another emotion chopped to take the feel out of it.

6. 'Gal' for 'Girl' - I don't mind the word much. Its only when people use it in a speech that bothers me.

7. '5n' for 'fine' - When someone sent me this for the first time, it took me more than a minute to figure out what that meant. When I ask someone how they are, the last thing I want is them shoving a number up my face.

8. 'S' for 'Yes' - Cant they type a 'ya' instead.

9. 'H r u' for 'How are you' - This one gets me boiling. Some people don't even bother to leave a space in between the characters.

10. 'Hpy Bday' for 'Happy Birthday' - This one will have the person thinking why was he/she ever born.

11. '@' for 'at' - Example: I'll meet you @ 8. Damn, people actually prefer to use 'shift' and '2' instead of 'a' and 't'. Weird.

The one shortcut that pisses the hell outa me is,

12. 'K' for 'Okay' or 'OK' - Aaaarghh.. How hard is it to type another character. If someone needs to piss me off, this is what they need to do.

Effective Communicator Usage

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Happy Birthday

This year as you turn twenty four,
May joy and happiness open its door;
I pray that all your wishes come true,
And no troubles standing in a queue.

That bright smile on your face,
Needs to always remain;
May success come driving in,
And wash away all the pain.

May there be more music,
Exactly of your kind;
May you be healthy,
In body, soul and mind.

May there be more love,
More parties and madness;
May you get everything,
That can give you happiness.

May lord give you what you desire,
Let he not forget anything;
May there be more and more smiles,
And let the happy slogans ring.

Let the bull keep on charging,
Let it dance away and cheer;
Cos after a gruesome year,
Finally your day is here.

May you live long my dear,
Never ever bid adieu;
Be it this year or the next,
I'll be there to wish you.

I may only be a small person,
I may not blow you away;
But your day is my day too,
So honey, Wish you a very happy Birthday!

What Does Love Mean?

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, "What does love mean?" The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined.

"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her, even when his hands got arthritis, too. That's Love."
- age 8

"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."
- age 4

"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."
- age 5

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French Fries without making them give you any of theirs."
- age 6

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."
- age 4

"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."
- age 7

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss."
- age 8

"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."
- age 7 (Wow!)

"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate."
- age 6

"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."
- age 7

"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."
- age 6

"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore. That's Love"
- age 8

"My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night."
- age 6

"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."
- age 5

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."
- age 7

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."
- age 4

"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones."
- age 4

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you"
- age 7

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross."
- age 6

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."
- age 8

The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child. (Now this will melt your heart.)

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked him what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, "Nothing, I just helped him cry."


Blah Blah Queen

I met this woman yesterday,
Who just wouldn't shut her mouth;
Blah blah blah she went,
Topics ranging from politics to food down south.

She thought she was the long lost queen,
Expected me to treat her like royalty;
Snobbish, rude and arrogant she was,
Without even an ounce of nobility.

She said, she's yet to meet a woman,
Who is prettier than her;
All I could do was force a smile,
While inside I gave a sneer.

I could see the seam splitting,
From her cheap brown and black dress;
Yet she acted like she's decked in Gucci,
Like Versace and Valentino visit her personal address.

Her hairstyle looked like my neighbour's poodle,
She said she likes Italian food, especially the noodle;
Gold jewellery is her passion she told,
Fast cars and hot guys she likes to hold;

Ugly, but thinks all the guys stare at her,
Poor thing doesn't know that its only in shock;
Yet she acts like she's god's gift to manhood,
Oh well, how do we get rid of her mental block?

A double XL, but feels size zero,
Clothes waiting to burst at the seam;
Puffy cheeks and sunken eyes,
Tooth protruding out, in a scary beam.

She went on and on, talk after talk,
Speaking of her hidden family wealth;
I felt she needed to concentrate more,
On her extra pounds and health.

She then started about this guy she liked,
Reason she says is cos he has a fancy car;
He is one hell of a cool dude,
Who wouldn't look at her even from far.

Each one should know where they stand,
Don't force yourself to grab any hand;
If someone likes you for what you are,
He's the chosen one, who'll make you feel grand.

When I could take it no longer,
I gave her the above advice;
She said that she had never seen a bitch like me,
Until today, to be precise.

I got flared up and dint want to let go,
If you rub me wrong, results you will get,
I said "So you haven't seen a bigger bitch?,
Pity, you haven't looked at a mirror yet".


Walking alone in the lane,
With the wind messing my mane;
I feel someone call out to me,
But when I turn, none I can see;
I feel someone watching me,
All through the day and the night;
I hear hushed whispers in my ear,
But I feel only warmth, no fear;
I can feel it all around,
But still can never see it;
It holds me close and tight,
Never lets me out of sight;
It feels my skin slowly,
Caresses' me like never before;
Plays with me teasing me,
Its as close as it can be;
It laughs with me,
Helps me wipe my tears;
Embraces me when I'm low,
Until it can see me glow;
I wondered what was this,
Then it struck me like a blow;
The thing that makes me feel so nice,
Can only be his shadow.


One of the most interesting pictures I've stumbled upon. I don't know if this pic represents hope, but it surely does make me think a lot.

Random Thoughts

To all my friends, with love..

Random thoughts flooding my head,
Seeing colors everywhere, blue, green and red;
The black and white haze seeming to lift,
Life seems wonderful almost like a gift.

You do right, you do wrong,
In the end, it only makes you strong;
Forgive, but do not forget,
Happiness is not that hard to get.

You need to make it happen,
Life is not always pixies and elves;
Cos a soul that has not suffered,
Would never fully know itself.

Even from the darkest alley,
You can still see the stars;
Smile, pray and love,
This will help heal the scars.

The purpose of humanity,
Is the meaning of life;
At least within yourself,
Let go of the strife.

While in a storm,
Don't let go of the boats;
Only while you're sinking,
You'll know that hope floats.

Just because you have it all,
Doesn't mean you have all the power;
The best of fragrance,
May still come from the ugliest flower.

We all have our faults and foibles,
After all we're just human;
The least we can do, is to live up to it,
And try to conquer the inner demon.

Love must be, free like a bird,
Give it space and it'll never bid adieu;
The more you give it away,
The more it comes back to you.

Stand by your thoughts,
Never let it go away;
Make sure when you kneel,
Its only to pray.

Things will not be smooth always,
There will be conflict and collision;
Through hardship and misfortune,
We usually have the clearest of vision.

Do not be discouraged,
We all have our share of trouble;
You'll never make it to the top of the mountain,
If you whine, while you step on a pebble.

I'm Cheerful :D

I'm not happy, I'm cheerful. There's a difference. A happy woman has no cares at all. A cheerful woman has cares but has learned how to deal with them.

-- Beverly Sills

Will Love Follow?

My review on the book 'Love Will Follow' may lean more towards the negative side due to following three reasons. One, the title suggests that arranged marriages will work as love will follow later, but all the examples in the book only show failed marriages, be it love or arranged. Two, the timing when I read the book. My best friend's wedding(arranged one), and seeing them so happy I had decided to give a go for the arranged concept, but the book made me think otherwise. Three, I'm definitely not the one who should read anything remotely related to a failed relationship. Makes me miserable. So there we go. I may seem biased because of the above reasons, but honestly the book doesn't leave a single positive thought on your mind. If there were any already, it may just take it all away.

I decided to read this book for one sole reason, the title. It said 'Love Will Follow'. I thought it will provide an insight on arranged marriages. Well, it didn't. Shaifali Sandhya the author is either a hardcore pessimist or a person who has been very unlucky in relationships. The examples mentioned in the book are really scary and at times hard to believe too. For example, the story which talks about Ambika, a successful working woman, stylish, beautiful and capable of achieving anything she wants. She is tied in a marriage of seven years where her husband has another family in another part of the world complete with kids and all. She is very well aware of this fact but is still married to him for more than half a decade. Reason, because of her kids. Do such things still happen now? I thought that was decades ago.

Marriages work, irrespective of love or arranged, when you want it to work. The compatibility, understanding and trust is what makes it work. Infidelity seems to be an increasing trend these days. All thanks to people like Tiger Woods and John Terry. Boy, I liked Terry so much at one point of time but now I simply loathe him. Thankfully no Indians are out in the open yet, with their list of infidelities. They do exist, I know. Some are out in the open and some still remain unknown. How can you cheat someone who loves you? How can you have two families and act like its not a big deal? Each thought is scarier than the other. The book only focuses on such issues while hardly giving a thought to marriages that have actually sustained.

My parents have been married for 29 years now. Mom and dad saw each other just once before the engagement, but still they lasted almost 3 decades. They may not be the happiest of couples still they have managed to make it work, and have done a really good job at it. It all about how you take it I guess. For some people marriages are sacred, so they hold on to it no matter what. Children form the glue in a loveless marriage, as in the case of Ambika here. I still wonder how can you bring a child out of a loveless marriage. That's like cheating your child and yourself. You don't need excuses to keep the marriage alive. You just need a reason, and that should be that you want it to work. Sticking onto something dead and trying to bring an offspring out of it is total madness.

Some parents think marriage help their kids 'grow up'. If the son is irresponsible, the only solution to this problem will be, 'Lets get him married, he'll become responsible'. If the daughter is lazy, cannot do the household chores, the solution again is 'Lets get her married, she'll learn then'. What do they think, I don't understand. Marriage is marriage after all, not rebirth. Agreed, you may succumb to responsibilities and will be forced to change, but is that a healthy change? You would just be doing things for the sake of it without feeling the need inside. There is also an incident in the book where parents of a homosexual guy decide to get him married with the hope of 'curing' him. How ignorant is our country? He ends up ruining the girls' life and she continues to live like as though nothing has happened. Strange are the ways of some women.

Marriage for me, would be for keeps. I'd go to any lengths to keep my marriage going. But if cases of infidelity occur, I'll turn into the true blooded lioness and attack my prey. I'd have no qualms walking out on a cheating husband. But after reading this book, marriage seems like a big risk. Even love marriages have no guarantee. Anything can go wrong, anytime. And the way Lord Murphy is showering his blessings on me, I know which side my life is gonna lean. The things I look for in a partner are changing day by day. Just imagine being stuck in a boring bond. Scary. For me, I need someone whom I can talk to day in and day out. If not anything else we can spend the rest of our life just talking to each other. Good conversations help to make good connections. After all this I feel, I'd rather marry a good friend than go for some strange demon. As they say, 'A known devil is any day better than an unknown angel'.

I Miss

I miss,

  • The long conversations we used to have.
  • The sweet nothings you used to whisper.
  • The bright smile on your face on seeing me.
  • The naughty madness we shared.
  • The countless songs you used to sing for me.
  • The sight of your love filled eyes.
  • The warm touch of your hand.
  • The assurance your arms provided.
  • The prompt goodnight kisses.
  • The passionate days and nights.
  • The silly fights and the lovely make-up's.
  • The concern you showed.
  • The twinkle in your eye.
  • The soothing effect of your wonderful voice.
  • The slight blush you gave when I praised you.
  • The appreciation you gave when I looked good.
  • The happy tears we shared n number of times.
  • The times when we got wet in the rain and loved it.
  • The monthly celebrations we had.
  • The feeling of seeing you everyday.
  • The pride of belonging to you.
and most importantly, I miss what I was when I was with you.


All Leo's are more or less the same. Emotional fools. Leo's are supposed to be born to rule. But more often than not we end up like doormats and get ruled by others. The only thing filled in abundance in us Leo's is emotions which is ready to spill out even at the drop of a hat. We make mistakes, cry, learn and go ahead and make the same mistakes again. Yeah, we are stubborn creatures. But why stubborn for all the wrong reason. Stubborn enough not to let go of what you cant have, stubborn enough to not want what all you can have. Leo's are the centre of attraction yes, yet why do we crave attention from those few people who wouldn't care if we existed or not. Why do we stick on to something for a lifetime ruining the present and in turn the future.

We Leo's are born optimists, but shouldn't there be a limit for hope too. Generous : yes, but generous enough to give it all to one person and have nothing left for yourself. Clever : that clever enough to deeply fall into something and not know how to come out of it. Cheerful : yes we do appear cheerful to all around us even though we are slowly dying inside. Expressive : we express feeling in all possible ways and at all possible times. Be it good or bad. Warm hearted : our hearts are kind enough to let it be ruled by someone else.

Confident and Courageous : brave enough to be optimistic when everything around point towards pessimism. Energetic : emotionally drained out but still find the energy to drain out some more. Encouraging : the only thing we can give ourselves. Determined : to get it all even if we end up as utter losers. Noble and Loyal : Even after years you still want what you have always wanted. Gracious : gracious enough to let go off all the temptations in store. Friendly and fun : probably the best quality of being a Leo. Irrepressible : We are temptations personified. No one can escape the charisma of a Leo. No matter what, no one can replace a Leo. Good or bad, Leo's are Leo's. Romantic : Oh let me not get started on this. Love rules our lives and romance is the beginning of every rule.

This should be the universal quote of all Leo's. "I made a mistake, have learnt from it. But now I am ready for another mistake".

How men and women get ready for a party


Sooper Excited

Its my best friends wedding today and tomorrow. I'm so damn excited. Its almost like its my BIG day! :D

More on this after the wedding! :-)

Please Listen

Please listen and don't say a word yet,
Remember the first time when we first ever met?
The madness, the feelings and the memories that we shared;
Remember, once upon a time you actually cared.

Now think of the time when we parted,
Remember my wail? Remember my cry?
You practically crushed and threw me away,
But I'm still here, ain't I?

Its been almost two years,
Still flow the uncontrollable tears;
When I try to rebuild my life with what I've got,
It just crumbles down, when I realise what I have not.

You were the most special part of my life,
A part that I will never forget;
A part of my life that broke my heart,
A part that I don't regret.

You gave me many happy memories,
All of which I'll keep in my heart;
Every breath brings in the pain,
Oh, Why did you have to go apart?

You are my true love and will always be so,
After all the sadness and never ending pain, I know;
You are special and that will never change,
I love you, and everyone else now seems so strange.

Please listen and don't say a word yet,
How much more pain do I still have to get?
Is it all my fault, did I throw it all away?
Why am I being punished, every night and day?

Smile a While

I'll be there

One of the best things I've heard lately, "Whenever you need me, I'll be there. And that's a promise". Felt real good :-)

Fix IT

I wake up post noon today, thanks to the reading I did all night. As I clumsily walk into the kitchen I see mom sitting at the table and trying to fix the handle of a broken cup. Then followed the below session.

Me : "What you trying to do, Ma? Not getting late for work?"
Mom : "Yeah I'll leave in sometime. Well, I just broke the handle of this cup while washing it. So I'm trying to fix it."
Me : "Oh God, just let it be na Ma. I'll get a new cup while I come back from shopping in the evening. Now, you go get ready for work."
Mom : "No. Not needed."

As usual I got agitated and made a face. She frowned too.

Mom : "You think I'm trying to save money here?"
Me : "Duh, what else are you trying to do Ma?"
Mom : "Yeah, that too. But I believe its easier to fix broken things than get something new to replace it."

I just stood looking at her. I felt like I was reading a page from some non detailed text in school.

Me : "Why you telling me all this first thing in the morning?"
Mom : "First of all, its not morning."

I sulk and position to leave.

Mom : "Second of all, I want you to understand what I said."
Me : "Understand what Ma?"

She smiles and leaves, while I sit there staring into thin space. How did my mom become so understanding. I hide every single emotion of mine the minute I get home. But she gets it all. Moms seriously are something more.

I could only say this under my breath, "I'm trying Ma, I'm trying."

Haage Summane

Heard the female version of "Anisuthide yaako indu" from Mungaru Male for the first time ever. Just one word "WOW"!! Nostalgia.. Nostalgia..

Araluthiru jeevada geleya,
Snehada sinchanadalli;
Baadadiru snehada hoove,
Premada bandhanadalli;
Manasalle irali bhaavane,
Midiyuthilrali mouna veene,
Haage summane..

Forget & Accept

How do I forget your name and your face?
How do I forget your warm embrace?
How do I forget the love I knew,
How do I accept you have someone new?

How do I forget our love song?
I don't care if I cried all night long;
I can only remember how close we were,
And the fact that you were always there.

I cannot forget the way you walk,
I cannot forget all the sweet talk;
I cannot forget the things you used to say,
I cannot accept that you've gone away.

I cannot forget the bright days and long nights,
I cannot forget the madness after our silly fights;
I cannot forget the smiles that we shared,
I cannot forget the times when you cared.

How do I forget your laugh and your grin?
How do I forget your voice and your chin?
How do I forget the way you held me tight?
How do I forget the way you kissed me goodnight?

I always thought that this love would last,
I cannot accept that now its "the past";
I cannot forget that you said you'd leave me never;
I cannot accept that you've gone forever.


Never share your problems with everyone. Among the people you tell, 5% may listen, 15% dont care and the rest 80% are happy that you have them.