By Invitation Only



I'm an extrovert alright, but still I speak only when I have something to say. Not because I just have to say something. You see, there is a difference here. A difference which a very few get. They say that a person who doesn't know anything always knows it the loudest. This is true. Very true. But only a very few get the sarcasm behind it. And nothing is more annoying than unappreciated sarcasm. 

I'm not the one to rant unnecessarily. How many times have you seen me rant here? Once, twice maybe. Let me tell you how the freedom of expression works. It is based on invitation. Like putting up something on Facebook. Be it a controversial status or a 'sexy to you but vulgar to me' picture. Either ways, you are inviting opinions. Deal with it. A few weeks back I put up a picture of mine with my hair tied up and my kohl lined eyes covered with my Ray-Ban. The picture was modified with a Blackberry app and the bizarre color effects around it made me look like a guy. But still I put it up. When someone commented that I look like a guy resembling a famous actor, I politely replied back with a thank you and introduced all of them to my male alter ego. And guess what, people loved him too! If you have made an effort to go public with something, you have to put up with the appreciation or criticism that comes your way. 

Someone put up a funny looking profile picture on FB. I maybe no fashionista here, but my only comment was as to why they were wearing that. When a dress looks more like a costume, it obviously triggers the basic question. Why? This comment was promptly deleted by the owner and was followed by a million thank yous to the people who have liked the picture. This has happened more times than one with more people than one. Isn't it simple not to put up something that might trigger opinions/criticism, if you can't deal with it. Mundane and low key is anyday better when compared to crass and controversial. Unless you are a Poonam Pandey ofcourse.

I'm no one to say what anyone has to put up on their blog or on their Facebook profiles. Put up anything you wish. But, be prepared to deal with the repercussions that come along with it. Its not hard, if you have the balls to do it. 

Always remember, trouble usually comes by invitation only.
~ Soumya

22 comments:

  1. Don't even talk. There are innumerous chicks I know who put up pictures in such bizzaranista avatars (bizarre to me, fashionista-ish to them) that I cannot help lauding their courage. And very amazingly, other wannabe fashionistas find the picture gorgeous and (y) it. And then again, the more sane group ends up making one mean comment, and this bizzaranista goes heels over head and lashes out about how the former knows nothing about fashion. God be with both of them.
    Its a pretty good relief to unleash inner thoughts and vulnerabilities through a post, nai? I should try this.
    I totally agree with the part about putting up with repercussions. People use FB and Twitter to inflate their ego actually, anything that deflates it doesn't work for them, however true the critique.

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    1. Bizzaranista!! The perfect word you used here.

      Relief?? Believe me, its more than that. Atleast I'm not lying, just stating what happened.

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  2. Alright, first of all, I think its way too silly to get so annoyed by whats happening to you on FB that it becomes an inspiration for a post. And secondly, why comment on someone's post when he/she doesnt give a damn about it and ends up deleting it? True, you must be dying to write something, but dont you think it makes no sense to do it if he/she doesnt want to keep it? Trust me, if that person cares about it, he will let that comment be there even if its negative. So I would suggest you the next time you feel like commenting somewhere, check the profile owner's name first.
    Take care :)

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    1. Alright, first of all, who said I was annoyed? Believe me its nice to watch peoples' reaction to something, just like yours on this post. And you actually call losers inspiration? If you had got your english right, you would know that rant and inspiration can never be part of the same sentence. Hahaha, you actually believe that people will keep negative comments if they care? Seriously friend, you need a reality check. Noone cares about the bitter truth and you need more than guts to accept it. Deletion is the easiest form of escapism.

      My comments would remain the same irrespective of who the profile owner is. You see bizzare things always make news, and doesn't look back to an owner. Its funny you say this when you yourself prefer to hide behind the 'Anonymous' tag. Hypocrisy you think?

      Thanks and you take care too :)

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  3. Aaah I think to be straight up and honest is better than lauding people with false comments. It's weird what people do to gain attention. But when they don't receive it in a positive way, they act like rebels.

    Apt title dear. And really people need to mind their own business :D

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  4. angry much kya? if not send a pretzel my way :D

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  5. Guess someone's really pissed you off :P

    I find it funny when people put up their FB badges inviting people to add them as friends, and then act scandalised when someone actually adds them.

    Cheers
    CRD

    updated blog...open to all sorts of comments :P

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    1. Oh mighty pissed, yeah!

      Hahaha, that's plain stupid :D

      On it now!! :D

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  6. I think behaviour on Fb has taken some strange twists and requires somebody to use a decoder to understand. I cant believe someone will delete comments. Bleh. Strange.

    P.s If we need inspiration to write rants then the world is going crazy :P #justsaying

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    1. FB seems like a drama these days. Tempted to delete the account, but its quite an entertainment when life gets boring :D

      Seriously!!!

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  7. Totally agree.. What is the point in putting up weird pictures and making a cry over negative comments? Anyway fb has an option of selective sharing, so if this people really don't care what we say, why don't they just share with people who they think will like it :D :D
    As for me, I have long given up commenting on anything because I hate the notifications that keep coming week long after I have made the comment :D

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    1. Welcome here Maithili! :)

      Amen to what you said. Why put up something if it garners attention from unwanted people who happen to be on your list. Some people are seriously funny.

      Oh the notifications is another story altogether. I get notifications for stuff I posted years ago. So new rule: Unfollow post as soon as you comment.

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  8. Well, I kind of agree and also disagree. (I also agree with Anony up here, there are people who will keep the criticism up, because it does not make a difference / they take it sportingly. I know I do. :) )

    'Mundane and low key is anyday better when compared to crass and controversial'. But, some people ARE controversial. Maybe because they have strong opinions, or maybe because they don't give a fuck. True, prepare to deal with consequences if you expressed your opinion on a public platform. But there are so many dumbfucks in the world who retaliate, JUST because they want to put you down. Not because they have something constructive to say. Such a fine line between those two things.

    I find many badly dressed (just for example) photos on my feed. Does telling them they look stupid really benefit my life in anyway? No, I don't think so. So why not just be nice to people, and leave the rest alone. There are so many things to do in life yaa! :P Why waste time giving opinions where are less likely to be appreciated (as is the case with negative remarks). Lets face it, there are very few people in the world who actually take it in the stride. :)

    I have a very simple way I go about things, something that I have learnt over the years. There is enough shit in the world, we really don't need negative opinions. Simply look the other way if you don't like what you see. How does it matter to you if someone else is being stupid / dumb / idiotic? Like my dear husband tells me, rise above all this, and concentrate all your energies on where you want to be 2/5/10 years from now. Trust me when I say this, I have a much more peaceful and worthwhile existence now, than I ever did before. :)

    P.S: Sorry for SUCH a long comment! :P

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    1. Wow, and how that made sense!!

      Thanks again, Annie <3

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  9. Soumya,

    I agree with you that one should have courage to stand appreciation as well as criticism for own actions. If one can not bear criticism, then better avoid that action.

    Take care

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  10. There is some old school stuff. If you cannot share it with your mom, do not do it.I am truly not the standing testimony to this, but yea - if you cannot deal with brickbats, stop being a loser and do not post pics! Madness, I say!

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    1. Hahaha that's an awesome way of putting it!

      Sheer madness this.

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  11. I hear ya sister!
    For instance, a few days back, a 13 or 14 year old girl on my friend list[school kids, I tell ya! :P] put up pictures of herself wearing RED LIPSTICK :| It was pretty damn traumatizing. So I simply chose to advise her not to lose her innocence THIS early in life! The comment was deleted, of course. But then again, I agree with Annie here. it wasn't really affecting me in any manner, so maybe I should have minded my own business! What a shame. Bhalai ka toh zamaana hi nahi hai. :|

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    1. Hahaha, kasam se!

      Seriously, its about time we mind our own business. Provided people do the same :)

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