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I learnt this a long time ago, to stay away from negative people. Earlier, I used to let a lot of people stay rent free on my mind and this used to trouble me a lot. Nothing affects me more than humans and it is a known fact that people continue to be my nemesis. I have met so many people in my life. While some bring joy where ever they go, others can create chaos in the calmest of places. Negative people are of different kinds. Pessimists are not the only negative ones, there are many many more out there.

People who constantly bitch about their jobs are the people I stay miles away from. In my opinion, if you do not like doing something, you should not do it. Else, you need to learn to love what ever is that you are doing. I love my job now and give it all that I have. But eight years ago, I used to hate it. I worked in a place where I was already at the highest possible role I could get. I was not learning anything and the people around me were constantly complaining about the pressure they are under. I had turned into one of them too. All I could do was crib constantly and hate myself for what I was doing. When I couldn't take it anymore, I moved projects. My life changed after that. I began looking at work differently and started enjoying the good things. Slowly, I understood it better and realized what I was doing and how it was making a difference in the big organization. There has been no looking back since then. People who only complain about their work, should try to do something to make it better. Else, bear with it and do not complain.

Another breed of people that depress the hell out of me are housewives. Ever since I got married, I hate the concept of housewives. I just cannot understand how someone can live for free all their lives without making an effort to earn a penny. I know of housewives who take care of the house brilliantly and yet do something for themselves in their spare time. I also know of so many house wives who have started small businesses for themselves and are making a decent amount of money and helping their family. I am immensely proud of such women. Women who spend their time gossiping on the phone and watching TV all day and depend on the family members for their basics, trouble me. Such people just exist, do not live. Most housewives have helps in their houses and yet do nothing for themselves. Even if it is not monetary, some don't even bother pursuing a hobby. Ambition-less people scream out negativity to me.

Have you met people who constantly blame others for all the troubles/mistakes in their lives? Such people need to be hung upside down, until some sense goes to their head from wherever it has been held. Failed an exam? Blame the power cut. Missed a flight? Blame the traffic. Got passed for a promotion? Blame the colleague who got it and accuse them of "special favors" to the boss. Still single? Blame the world for the lack of good partners. Got jilted by a lover? Blame the partner for not recognizing what they lost. Gosh! There is no end to their excuses. It is time they pull up their socks and take a good look at life. Every person makes his/her own life. Make the best of all the resources that you have and lead a decent life. But no. People want to fuck up things and then have someone to blame for it. Arranged marriages tend to be the perfect example for this. I stay miles away from people who look for people they can place a blame on.

Of late I have seen myself being discussed on social media and not in a very good way. Do I care? Absolutely not, because these people do not matter to me at all. But recently I saw someone I share a good rapport with make a sly remark about my "boldness" (I still can't believe that saying what you actually feel is considered bold). I was hurt, obviously. I do not like it when people are nice to me and then talk trash behind my back. This created a lot of negative thoughts in my mind and upset me. After a while I realized that it shouldn't matter to me what people think about me. No matter who or how close they are. I put the thought and the people discussing it in my ignore bucket and moved on. Some people are not what they seem on face value. I might have gotten it wrong once, but there will be no room for a second time. At least I have it in me to stay away from such people and not pretend to like them.

I have lived with a lot of negativity in my life. Earlier. I have had people mocking my financial status, my skin tone, my clothes, my choices and what not. It took me a while to leave it all behind and move on. Now that I'm in a very stable and happy place, I do not leave any room for negativity. No matter how close these people are to me, I stay away from them. When you mingle with negative people, some negativity tends to rub off on you too. I've had some unpleasant experiences before and I do not want to go through it again. I'm in a happy place with a limited number of people in my life. If having only good and positive people around you deems me as selfish, then so be it. I do not expect anything from anybody. Materialistic or otherwise. In the same way, I do not expect negativity as well.

How do you deal with the negative people in your life?

18 comments:

  1. Have lived with terrible negativity both at the workplace and even with colleagues for a large part of my life. And yes, it does affect you personally, constantly having to deal with it in your everyday life. I actively walked away or cut those people from my life. This included seniors, friends I considered close and even blood relatives. The way I saw it, I needed to safeguard my own peace of mind instead of drowning in their negativity just to appease them.

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    1. It is very important to cut out negative people. There is no other way. In order to maintain your sanity, you need to do certain things.

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  2. I try to stay away from negative people. No two ways about it. They just drag you down with their misery. I also steer clear of permanent victims. You know those who are always crying about how cruel life is. Okay chin up and bear it. Once in a while we all need support but all the time please give me a break.

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    1. Oh yes! I am surprised that some people don't get tired of complaining.

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  3. Like you, I also stay away from negative people. You are right that with them, negativity does rub off. If we don't like something we need to move out of the situation. Sitting and sulking is not right.

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  4. Here's a gun - let's shoot that negativity away. Not literally, of course. I'd hate to queue up to bail you out. On second thoughts, I'd probably be sitting right next to you in that cell saying 'Dude...what did we do!' :P

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    1. Sitting in the cell with Champagne glasses in our hands saying "Dude, we did it!" :D

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  5. I love how you and the ones in comments are so positive and likeable people. These are the people that we need in life, if we want to live in peace and achieve something. People who are driven by a purpose don't have time to criticize everything around them. They are already thinking of a solution. And as for the bold statement... Believe me not every has the guts to say what they think... Even I don't have that much courage... You are class apart when it comes to that... Like a lion. That's the kind of personality I would like my kids to develop, whenever that happens :) sending out all the positive vibes to you.

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    1. Thank you so much my dear. Your Insta posts are enough to give me positivity for life.

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  6. Negativity kills me.. literally. But i guess over the years, I have learnt to ignore them and do things that keeps me positive.

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    1. Good for you. I'm doing the same too.

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  7. Aiyooo this is me me me ! I hate negativity too and get hated in return. I am not a public favorite for the same reason. I am liked by very few people and these people are real gems - the ones I have chosen to be in my inner circle. I avoid negativity - which means all the people in the building I stay in. I am like one of the two women in this building that goes to work-so I am also the most bitched about. Imagine.
    My husband thinks I dont make an effort to like and be liked, but I dont want to. I am happy with the few people I know and am friends with.There are just few, very few out there that are positive and supportive. Once you find them, do not let them go. They are precious.

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    1. I can so agree to this. I'm not a public favorite too but I do garner enough interest at times. Don't know why :P

      Some people do tell me that I do not make an effort to be liked and I'm like yes, I don't want to. If people like me, good. If they don't, very good.

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  9. Hey keep posting such good and meaningful articles.

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