I learnt this a long time ago, to stay away from negative people. Earlier, I used to let a lot of people stay rent free on my mind and this used to trouble me a lot. Nothing affects me more than humans and it is a known fact that people continue to be my nemesis. I have met so many people in my life. While some bring joy where ever they go, others can create chaos in the calmest of places. Negative people are of different kinds. Pessimists are not the only negative ones, there are many many more out there.
People who constantly bitch about their jobs are the people I stay miles away from. In my opinion, if you do not like doing something, you should not do it. Else, you need to learn to love what ever is that you are doing. I love my job now and give it all that I have. But eight years ago, I used to hate it. I worked in a place where I was already at the highest possible role I could get. I was not learning anything and the people around me were constantly complaining about the pressure they are under. I had turned into one of them too. All I could do was crib constantly and hate myself for what I was doing. When I couldn't take it anymore, I moved projects. My life changed after that. I began looking at work differently and started enjoying the good things. Slowly, I understood it better and realized what I was doing and how it was making a difference in the big organization. There has been no looking back since then. People who only complain about their work, should try to do something to make it better. Else, bear with it and do not complain.
Another breed of people that depress the hell out of me are housewives. Ever since I got married, I hate the concept of housewives. I just cannot understand how someone can live for free all their lives without making an effort to earn a penny. I know of housewives who take care of the house brilliantly and yet do something for themselves in their spare time. I also know of so many house wives who have started small businesses for themselves and are making a decent amount of money and helping their family. I am immensely proud of such women. Women who spend their time gossiping on the phone and watching TV all day and depend on the family members for their basics, trouble me. Such people just exist, do not live. Most housewives have helps in their houses and yet do nothing for themselves. Even if it is not monetary, some don't even bother pursuing a hobby. Ambition-less people scream out negativity to me.
Have you met people who constantly blame others for all the troubles/mistakes in their lives? Such people need to be hung upside down, until some sense goes to their head from wherever it has been held. Failed an exam? Blame the power cut. Missed a flight? Blame the traffic. Got passed for a promotion? Blame the colleague who got it and accuse them of "special favors" to the boss. Still single? Blame the world for the lack of good partners. Got jilted by a lover? Blame the partner for not recognizing what they lost. Gosh! There is no end to their excuses. It is time they pull up their socks and take a good look at life. Every person makes his/her own life. Make the best of all the resources that you have and lead a decent life. But no. People want to fuck up things and then have someone to blame for it. Arranged marriages tend to be the perfect example for this. I stay miles away from people who look for people they can place a blame on.
Of late I have seen myself being discussed on social media and not in a very good way. Do I care? Absolutely not, because these people do not matter to me at all. But recently I saw someone I share a good rapport with make a sly remark about my "boldness" (I still can't believe that saying what you actually feel is considered bold). I was hurt, obviously. I do not like it when people are nice to me and then talk trash behind my back. This created a lot of negative thoughts in my mind and upset me. After a while I realized that it shouldn't matter to me what people think about me. No matter who or how close they are. I put the thought and the people discussing it in my ignore bucket and moved on. Some people are not what they seem on face value. I might have gotten it wrong once, but there will be no room for a second time. At least I have it in me to stay away from such people and not pretend to like them.
I have lived with a lot of negativity in my life. Earlier. I have had people mocking my financial status, my skin tone, my clothes, my choices and what not. It took me a while to leave it all behind and move on. Now that I'm in a very stable and happy place, I do not leave any room for negativity. No matter how close these people are to me, I stay away from them. When you mingle with negative people, some negativity tends to rub off on you too. I've had some unpleasant experiences before and I do not want to go through it again. I'm in a happy place with a limited number of people in my life. If having only good and positive people around you deems me as selfish, then so be it. I do not expect anything from anybody. Materialistic or otherwise. In the same way, I do not expect negativity as well.
How do you deal with the negative people in your life?