The Wedding Drama



Yes I'm married. I.am.married. Man, it does take quite a while for the feeling to sink in. Its been a month since the wedding and it still hasn't for me. Its very normal and takes some time, says the newly married expert Spiff master, who was sweet enough to come to Bangalore from Chennai for the wedding. Raj cheta from Fuck Love made it too. It was so much fun meeting them, although couldn't spend much time with them as Cal and me were totally confined to the stage. Phatichar guruji came to bless us too, but all I could speak to him was a lame 'Thank you'. Sorry Sri, we surely will catch up and speak at leisure soon.

I had a big fat Brahmin Iyer wedding. With about 3000 guests, there was hardly any time to breathe. The whole day went in a flash and Cal and me only realized what all we were made to do, when we saw the video and the pictures (which I shall post here soon). By the time the day ended, we both were drop dead exhausted. Inspite of all the rush and the chaos, March 22nd shall remain the most beautiful and the most important day of my life. I married the man I love in front of all the people who matter to me (and some of those who don't). I mean, its hard enough to find love in this world and getting your parents to agree and set up the wedding is a different ball game altogether. Everything was a cakewalk for us and our parents gave us the dream wedding we both wanted. 

Our friends came from every nook and corner of the country to witness our big day. My best friend Priya and my maternal cousins stood by my side obliging to every word that came out of my mouth. "I need a hair clip, my hair's slipping", "My bindi dropped, find me another. Quick!", "I'm thirsty, get me some water", "Tissue!!" etc etc. They calmly put up with everything and supported me through out the entire 17 odd hours. I don't know what I would have done without them. Thank you my lovelies. And then there was Cal, asking if I was alright every second. He stood like a rock by my side and helped me sail through the day. No wonder I married that guy. He is simply awesome! 

When "the" moment arrived and Cal had to tie the 'thali' on my neck, everything went blur, and the past year slide show started. Those two minutes were the happiest minutes of my life. I don't know if it was the nadaswaram music or my emotions, but my eyes welled up. Cal and me were looking into each others eyes (this has come out as a brilliant pic) feeling the exact same thing. I wanted to cry out loud, I till date don't know why. Priya apparently cried at the same moment. See, that's what best friends are for. My stomach was churning, heart beating faster, emotions gushing, eyes welling.... it was all a mix. And to say it was only two minutes? Felt like a life time to me. I had to kiss Cal's arm and hold it there to prevent myself from releasing the happy tears. It was amazing. Hypnotic. Pure. Magical. 

It was love.

It sure was a lavish wedding and we have only our parents to thank for it. Cal and me monitored every single detail and our parents quietly paid up for everything we asked.The gifts were another comedy in itself and that story shall find its way in a different post. The best gift ever came all the way from Mumbai from my friend, Stranger! He sent me the entire Calvin & Hobbes collection. WOW! Talk about an apt gift. Thanks a ton, you are a sweetheart.

Our wedding triggered a lot of feelings. Primarily jealousy for others, relief for us. Every thing went perfectly without any glitch and we received wonderful feedback from all the people who mattered to us. "We actually got married. Can you believe it?", this was what Cal kept asking me throughout the day and we are still not able to believe it. Marriage has not changed anything for us. I still feel like a girlfriend and not like a wife. He still is the annoying, cute, little boyfriend and not a husband. We go out for a date every single day. No matter how hectic the day is, or no matter how tired we are. And this is how we shall be for the rest of our lives. That's for sure. You see, falling in love is not important. Staying in love is.

P.S: The Honest Posts shall keep coming, but not in a sequence. Like I said, they are phases not parts. As and when I find the words worthy of a phase, I shall post them.

~ Soumya

32 comments:

  1. Let the happiness continue. Don't worry about those who whine. They find something to be jealous about. I hope you are happy and enjoy the relationship you are invested in. Cause truly only that matters :)

    Love!

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    1. Oh yeah, only that matters!!

      Thanks love, missed you at the wedding though.. :)

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  2. Congrats! I hope marriage does not take us away from our blog..as it has done for me..a part of you changes drastically and you can not conjure same emotions which made you write better stuff on the blog..and I miss that sometimes

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    1. Thanks Rajita! I hope so too, I've already been away for more than a month.

      I totally get it! You hardly are able to come up with words now, earlier it just used to flow. I miss it too. Glad there is someone who shares the same feeling :)

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  3. Wow Somz, glad to see u back.. hope u had an awesome honeymooning :)

    Thank u for inviting us.. Spiff n me were wondering what a grand wedding it was.. very well organised, very efficient (the food arrangement was quite a brilliant example of efficiency, variety and yumminess).. Wow there were 3000, eh? Wow, thats so cool.. We loved the two singers who sang some superb n sweet songs.. all in all, a beautiful evening.

    Forget bout all these minor things yaar... u two looked beautiful together...it was one of the best weddings I've attended n it was just perfect.. u know, we cud sense the happiness n the comfort u guys hv in each other n it showed. Do put up the pics soon :)

    Welcome back Somz n wishing u guys the best yaar! :)

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    1. I sure did Chets! Thanks :)

      The singers were a retro touch! I'm glad you and Spiff enjoyed the evening :). So when are we meeting up next? You're just a stone throw away now :D

      Thanks Raj and thank you again for making it to the wedding :)

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  4. Hello woman!!!! You're back!
    First of all, congratulations on your big fat brahmin iyer wedding!
    I hope you had the best time of your life.
    Second, thanks for posting. I was so looking forward to your post. I was reading your blog a few days back and let me tell you, your posts can be read over and over again.
    Third, all such people hardly matter, don't they? YOU'RE MARRIED, that's all that matters!
    Wish you a lifetime of happiness and good riddance from such people!

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    1. Oh yeah, me is the backs :D.. Awwww, that's so sweet. I promise to post often now :)

      Thank you so much, my dear :)

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  5. Congratulations Soumya! :)
    I really went "Awww!" reading the prime part of the wedding.
    I genuinely wish you a worthy married life!

    The unwanted invitees...aah! well...they made u realise that ur wedding was actually something! ;)

    Happy life!

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    1. Thank you so much :)

      They sure did, in a way they made us feel more special ;)

      Thanks again!

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  6. Wish you all the best things in the world, dear!

    And yes, you are married! That is all that matters. Whoever did whatever! Let it all fade into the background. Enjoy the feeling dear. I am waiting for my turn :)

    Until later,
    Keirthana :)

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    1. Thank you so much. Your time will come soon I'm sure :)

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  7. Congrats once again and have a great life ahead.... I wish you all the best and same love and happiness forever!!

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  8. Finally delurking because am so glad to hear about you two finally getting married for life. Reminds me of my own struggle more than 2 years back ;-)

    Wish you both a fab time ahead! :)

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    1. I'm glad we both survived our respective struggles :)

      Thank you so much and welcome to my blog! :)

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  9. Congrats Soumya :) waiting for wedding pics too ..... i had last read ur engagement blog and loved it n decided to read this one :) u have an innate knack of describing things in a way they come alive like a movie clip in ur mind....i have known u as a spunky, confident, smart female who taught me how to apply kajal in a different way FYI i still apply kajal in the same way and people ask me who taught me ;) lolz

    stay this way always :) wishing u a great married life ...congratulations again

    cheers
    Ayushi

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    1. Awwww how sweet... I'm sure you rock the kajal look, I'm still stuck to it :D

      Thank you so much, means a lot to me :)

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    2. Hey Soumya so much to catch up on your blog!! Can you tell me your kajal secret as well?? :)

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    3. Catch up soon and maybe someday I'll put up the kajal secret here ;)

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  10. This is suchhhh a beautiful post Saumya! Congratulations to you an Cal. May you have the best in life. I want to see the pic from your best two minutes :)

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    1. Thank you so much, my dear. Shall post that particular picture soon :)

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  11. Oooohhh congratulations Soum :D .. damn the cribbers will stay.. but the point is you guys made it...and in a royal shaadi way... soo all the best...and enjoy every moment. Best wishes :* :)

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    1. Cribbers do stay. And the best part is each and everyone thinks its them!! :D

      Thanks darling :*

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  12. Ah. The "lady" is back! :) I so wanted to see you that day, but alas, bloody work :( Anyway, please please upload EVERYTHING related to your marriage. And that line of yours, "falling in love is not important. Staying in love is." I know you will let it hold true, at least for this lifetime. Give my best to Cal as well.

    I thought it was one of the best gifts, but THE best gift? WOW :D Thank you thank you :) Khush kar diya oye ladki ne. Paani aa gaya aakho me ;).

    So, A new phase, huh? :) Have fun, make love, ignore the cribbers, because, in the end, all that matters is you and Lohith, together. Forever :)

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    1. I really missed you on the wedding, you should have been there! I sure will stay in love and shall convey your regards to Cal for sure. Thanks :)

      The BEST gift. Period.

      Yes, that's all that matters. Thank you so much yaar :)

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  13. First of all. Congratulations! you did have a lavish wedding. :) And what you told about people. Leave them alone. They won't change. Ever. This happens in each and every wedding. But you two enjoyed and are happy is what matters. :) Have a really good life.

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    1. They never change, do they? That's when the magic word comes into picture. IGNORE.

      Thank you :)

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  14. You see, falling in love is not important. Staying in love is (so true)...OMG OMG..You are married..I am so happy for you,truly am :)

    May this journey brings you lots of happiness..enjoyed reading this post..:)

    Looking forward to read more phases of your life..

    Keep smiling love :)

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