Yes I'm married. I.am.married. Man, it does take quite a while for the feeling to sink in. Its been a month since the wedding and it still hasn't for me. Its very normal and takes some time, says the newly married expert Spiff master, who was sweet enough to come to Bangalore from Chennai for the wedding. Raj cheta from Fuck Love made it too. It was so much fun meeting them, although couldn't spend much time with them as Cal and me were totally confined to the stage. Phatichar guruji came to bless us too, but all I could speak to him was a lame 'Thank you'. Sorry Sri, we surely will catch up and speak at leisure soon.
I had a big fat Brahmin Iyer wedding. With about 3000 guests, there was hardly any time to breathe. The whole day went in a flash and Cal and me only realized what all we were made to do, when we saw the video and the pictures (which I shall post here soon). By the time the day ended, we both were drop dead exhausted. Inspite of all the rush and the chaos, March 22nd shall remain the most beautiful and the most important day of my life. I married the man I love in front of all the people who matter to me (and some of those who don't). I mean, its hard enough to find love in this world and getting your parents to agree and set up the wedding is a different ball game altogether. Everything was a cakewalk for us and our parents gave us the dream wedding we both wanted.
Our friends came from every nook and corner of the country to witness our big day. My best friend Priya and my maternal cousins stood by my side obliging to every word that came out of my mouth. "I need a hair clip, my hair's slipping", "My bindi dropped, find me another. Quick!", "I'm thirsty, get me some water", "Tissue!!" etc etc. They calmly put up with everything and supported me through out the entire 17 odd hours. I don't know what I would have done without them. Thank you my lovelies. And then there was Cal, asking if I was alright every second. He stood like a rock by my side and helped me sail through the day. No wonder I married that guy. He is simply awesome!
When "the" moment arrived and Cal had to tie the 'thali' on my neck, everything went blur, and the past year slide show started. Those two minutes were the happiest minutes of my life. I don't know if it was the nadaswaram music or my emotions, but my eyes welled up. Cal and me were looking into each others eyes (this has come out as a brilliant pic) feeling the exact same thing. I wanted to cry out loud, I till date don't know why. Priya apparently cried at the same moment. See, that's what best friends are for. My stomach was churning, heart beating faster, emotions gushing, eyes welling.... it was all a mix. And to say it was only two minutes? Felt like a life time to me. I had to kiss Cal's arm and hold it there to prevent myself from releasing the happy tears. It was amazing. Hypnotic. Pure. Magical.
It was love.
It sure was a lavish wedding and we have only our parents to thank for it. Cal and me monitored every single detail and our parents quietly paid up for everything we asked.The gifts were another comedy in itself and that story shall find its way in a different post. The best gift ever came all the way from Mumbai from my friend, Stranger! He sent me the entire Calvin & Hobbes collection. WOW! Talk about an apt gift. Thanks a ton, you are a sweetheart.
Our wedding triggered a lot of feelings. Primarily jealousy for others, relief for us. Every thing went perfectly without any glitch and we received wonderful feedback from all the people who mattered to us. "We actually got married. Can you believe it?", this was what Cal kept asking me throughout the day and we are still not able to believe it. Marriage has not changed anything for us. I still feel like a girlfriend and not like a wife. He still is the annoying, cute, little boyfriend and not a husband. We go out for a date every single day. No matter how hectic the day is, or no matter how tired we are. And this is how we shall be for the rest of our lives. That's for sure. You see, falling in love is not important. Staying in love is.
P.S: The Honest Posts shall keep coming, but not in a sequence. Like I said, they are phases not parts. As and when I find the words worthy of a phase, I shall post them.