The above image is my cover photo on Facebook. I found this image by chance actually and when I saw it I knew how true it held for me. We all make mistakes ofcourse, but how many of us actually sit back, analyse them and take away a learning? I did not too, until a while ago. But now I cannot imagine myself as a person, without those mistakes. Mistakes are not rejections, they are lessons. You need to be self critical and very mature to accept it and takeaway the true meaning of it. If you are blinded by ego, then well you will never realize that it was a mistake in the first place. Introspection and retrospection is really important in life. To grow and to understand the importance of situations in life.
Of course a mistake doesn't start of being well, a mistake. It is a normal activity or emotion that goes wrong somewhere due to various reasons. How you look at it is the key here. If you just want to forget it and move on, then it is a choice that you have to make. Because no matter how much you ignore or run away from it, it will come back to haunt you someday or the other. Most of my mistakes have been decisions. Either the decision or the delay in taking it. But then I saw through the clouds and found my silver lining in the form of learnings that I got to take back. Initially I moped and cried over it, but later when my over active brain scrutinized the incident I saw what the reality was and what exactly the issue was. The next time I got it right.
I am an extrovert, but I am not a very friendly person. Exactly why I appear as a snob to most people. But that is how I am and I do not care what people think about me. I find it really difficult to trust people and most of life's lessons for me have been in this area alone. I only have a bunch of people whom I can trust and who I know will have my back always. But then some people have my back in such a way that they even put a knife through it. What was my mistake here you ask? To trust the person for the second time. A few days ago, the same thing had happened. It took me a while to recuperate from it, but I somehow did. I got my lesson then itself but somehow I overlooked it. But this time, I have the lesson engraved all over me. Some people are just not meant to be trusted in anyway possible. Also, some people will go to any extent to put the other person down so that they can shine. Enough. Twice bitten. I shall never make the mistake of trusting such people again. I have got burnt badly due to this. If this is life's way of teaching me the lesson, then well I have mastered it now.
A couple of months back I bought a top for myself online. I liked the prints and I thought that it will look good on me. My husband told me from day one that the prints are too book and will not look good. Yet, I went ahead and purchased the top. When it arrived I still liked how it looked. But when I wore it, I looked like a moron as there was too much going on with that single top. Something that looks good might not always suit you. Mistake made, lesson learnt. But it took me a while to realize it. I tried to wear that top in different ways with different skirts and trousers, and yet it did not look good. Thanks to this, the return period lapsed and I was stuck with the top that I knew I would never wear. I had to give it away for free to someone and since then I have stayed away from big prints.
The biggest mistake of my life was that I took my parents for granted. I only realized their importance once I got married. Almost everyone of us take our parents for granted, but it is time to wake up and see the struggle they put up for us. My mother is a working lady and yet she manages to take care of the house so well. She prepares breakfast and lunch before she leaves to work and packs our lunchboxes. By the time we come back from work, she would have kept some snacks ready. And by dinner time, a wholesome meal would be ready. All made fresh and hot, without any carry overs. It is because of her that I have love for food and am the good cook that I am today. After marriage as I do the same day after day I realize how hard it must have been for her to do that. That day I vowed to never ever take my parents for granted.
Mistakes teach us a lot, atleast it did to me. Knowingly or unknowingly. I'm the same person who wrote "Made mistakes. Never learnt from them. No regrets." in her introduction. But then I was forced to swallow my own words as they taught me more than what I would have learnt had I not made any mistakes. Today whatever I am, is because of the hard work that I put in. And a certain percentage of that can also be attributed to the mistakes that I have made. Life has been wonderful to me by giving me lessons in the form of mistakes. And I'm happy to openly admit that, yes, I have made mistakes. What is there to hide in that?
Make mistakes, learn from it. Did not learn anything? Don't worry, this is the mistake that you will learn from.