"When the wife is away, the husband will play."
"Marriage is a workshop where husband works and the wife shops."
"WIFE: Without information, fighting every time."
"It is hilarious when women think that they are punishing their husbands by not talking to them for a few days."
"A husband always has a wireless connection around him. It is called - Wifeye."
These are not the only jokes doing the rounds since time immemorial. Every day there are new jokes, either on the Internet or in the form of a whatsapp forward. While I am a person who loves humor and people with a sense of humor, jokes like these are nothing but trash to me. My husband and I have been together for five years and have been married for three and a half years and we have never found any such joke remotely funny. Marriage to us is a sacred bond that celebrates our love. We have been together for everyday of these five years and cannot do without seeing each other even for a day. You might be thinking that since I'm the wife, it is easy for me to say this. Feel free to talk to my husband about this, he will echo the same thoughts.
It is not only my husband, I do have some good friends who love their wives and cannot stay away from them. On the other hand, I also have friends who never tire of complaining about their wives. They cannot wait for their wives to go home to her parents or somewhere else just to leave them alone. They complain about not being able to drink or party because of the presence of a wife in their life. Rather than cribbing about it, I think they should sit and reason with their wives instead of assuming that she might not let him go out with his friends. A woman has a life too. Irrespective of whether she is a wife or not. If she has to go out to meet her friends then I'm sure she will let you do that too. Why make such a big deal out of something so basic?
Another thing that most men worry about when it comes to their wives is the 'S' word. Shopping. Most men act like they have never shopped for anything in their life and that shopping was an unheard of topic until the wife came along. It really is hideous. Yes, women do take a long time to shop and I know that men have to wait endlessly outside a trial room, but if this is something that makes her happy then what is the problem? Most women earn these days and pay the bill themselves, yet some men cannot stop complaining about the whole charade. I am not a big fan of shopping as I'm a very impatient person who cannot wait in the trail room's queue or the billing counter. As and when I feel the need to shop, my husband and I go shopping together. He waits for me outside the trail room and I do the same when he has to try on his clothes. Neither of us think of it as an issue.
Most men think of their wives as a noose hanging around their head all the time. Such thoughts give rise to more and more silly jokes or innuendos which get circulated endlessly. Not only men, there also are women who happily share these stuff. While there are women who complain endlessly about their husbands as well, more often than not the joke is always on them. The men might think that it is harmless to share a joke or complain about their wives, but it is no less than wife beating when you put your wife down in front of others. A married man with kids once shared a forward on whatsapp about why you should always respect a pregnant woman. This is what it read - "Always respect a pregnant woman. She is walking around with evidence that she was fu*ked." I wonder how his wife would react if she read this. There also are men who openly admit that they feel chained by their wives. When I ask them why they got married, they reply "For sex". It is sad that the sanctity of marriage has come down to this for some people.
Everybody enjoys a good sense of humor, but jokes and memes like these are nothing but offensive and in poor taste. Dear men, if you have a problem with your wife, please talk to her about it instead of making a joke out of it or complaining about it to your other male friends who would join in with their own tales and laughter.