You know, some powers are not limited to James Bond or mutants alone. And well, not only to machines too. Some people have an X-ray vision, such that, if you stare at people for long enough, you would be able to see through their clothes. And more often than not, these people put this power to test.
Jokes apart, have you ever felt a man's gaze fall on you so much, that you begin to feel naked? Or a lady staring at you in such a way that you might as well as be naked? Man, at times I am so tempted to gouge out the eyes of such people. Everyday I face this harassment as I wait to board an auto to my office. Thanks to the Bangalore auto drivers, I need to stand on the street for at least five minutes before I find an auto that will drop me to the office at the meter price. Those five minutes are living hell to me. I'm usually dressed in formal pants and shirts, or salwar kurtas. Yet, eyes scan me like I am standing stark naked on the street. Although its mostly men who stare, there have been quite a few ladies too. They look at me from top to bottom and some of them seem to be amused by my toe rings or the vermilion on my forehead. Yet, they continue to stare.
Its not about wearing revealing clothes these days, the rule seems to be that if it is a girl, you need to stare. Not only me, I have seen so many women and young girls going through this harassment. Eve teasing is something else altogether, but leching is really disturbing. Its makes you feel like an object displayed in a glass box. Some men look at you in such a way that you can actually feel the undressing going on in their minds. Brigade road of Bangalore is one street that I hate to visit because of this. There will be a thousand women out there dressed in various attires, and everyone gets stares from a different person in a different way. A girl with a shirt and jean will get the same looks as that of the lady in the micro shorts. Its disgusting if you think of it. Just because you wear modern clothes, people would stare at you. And who defines the term modern by the way? I have seen men lech at saree clad women too. So who is supposed to draw the line here?
Such people are disturbing. I remember feeling almost naked when I was in Delhi. I was wrapped up in a stole in peak summer, just to avoid those lecherous stares. And yet, it did not stop. I was wondering if they were looking at me because I was an outsider, read alien, or because I was a girl in general. The stares creeped the hell outta me. My husband had to create a barrier around me with his hands as I walked the lanes of our national capital. The others girls who were being stared at did not seem to mind much. Some made faces that clearly told that they were used to such things by now. Maybe this is the scene everywhere, every state and in every city. But what do the people who are staring, getting out of this?
Its not like you scan me from top to bottom and I jump into your arms the next minute. So what exactly are those people getting? Am I expected to remain a filament of their imagination within their minds? Don't you think that is more scary than it sounds. I feel icky every time a random stranger states at me. Some people don't even look away when you catch them staring at you. That gets more creepier. Sadly, we do not have a solution to that. Because of course, you can't pick a fight just because someone is looking at you, can you?
How do you think this can be handled?