I turn thirty this August and it is more than safe to say that most of the people I know this age, are parents by now. We all have heard of the societal rule book where one should get married by twenty four and have any number of babies by the time you turn thirty. Almost all the people I know have followed this rule to the tee. But for me, a baby has never featured on my priority list. Do not get me wrong, I do not hate babies. I like them a lot, in fact. But I have never really wanted to have one of my own someday. And this is what I think until now. Will I change my mind later? You never know.
Since I know a lot of parents, old and new, most of their conversations revolve around their children. You might be in a large group of ten people with three parents among them and yet most of the conversations would revolve around babies and everything else associated with them. I was once out for lunch with a group of my lady friends and all they spoke about was their children. They discussed which brand of diapers was the best, how to use the diaper right, how to get the most out of a diaper and how to dispose it off easily. I just sat there sipping drink after drink, while they discussed the certain expectations from diapers.
I do not mind meeting new parents but they need to understand that I'm not one yet. And probably will never be. So most of the things that they say goes right above my head and I end up feeling terribly bored. I know creating a life is magical and you cannot believe you made another person. Believe me, I'm extremely proud of you but that cannot be the only thing in your life right? Once I accompanied a friend who is also a mother for shopping as I had a huge list to buy too. Sadly I did not tick off even one item from my list because the only stores we went to were baby stores. I was not only pissed but disturbed too. A pregnant mannequin troubles me a lot. I don't know why, but it does.
Having a child doesn't mean that it is the only thing in your life. If you want to discuss a lot of things about children then please do it with other parents. Not with the ones who have never held a baby properly yet. There have been times when I just call a random person who is not a parent yet and talk to them for a long time while meeting friends who not stop talking about their babies. It is annoying and disrespectful at the same time. And while they decide to talk to me about something, it more often than not is about why I do not want to have a baby or the pleasures that I'm missing out on by not having one. If only killing was legal!
It is not only about in-person conversations. Even telephonic conversations are all about the child. If you call me to ask about how I'm doing, then listen to what I say. But first I hear screams in the back ground, then I hear the phone drop, then I hear random squeals and noises and if I manage to hold on to my patience and the call, the conversation soon veers towards what the child is doing, or had done or will do. I absolutely hate it! When you meet as friends you let go off the other roles in your lives and meet as friends at least for that some time. But some people just don't understand that. Discussing the price of diapers in every store of the city is not my idea of a conversation.
So until I tell you that I'm planning to have a baby or have had a baby, spare me from such conversations.