Most of the adjectives used to describe me begin with 'B'. Bold, brave, brash, bitch etc. But the most used word has to be, 'blunt'. Do I have a problem with it? Absolutely not. Unlike most people, I am someone who knows exactly what I am. I do not try to fake it, nor try to be someone else. Most of my posts come across as very blunt because that is the intent. I don't know how to sugar coat words or incorporate fancy words in a sentence just to make the punch subtle. That's not me at all. I'm someone who likes to hit where it hurts the most.
When I speak, people often say that I'm way too blunt. I am, I know, but not most of the time. One of the main problems with me is the wonderful voice I've been blessed with. I'm blessed with a voice that is part manly and part frogish. And that too with a very high decibel. Even my whispers have the capacity to deafen someone at times. Yeah, see I'm being honestly blunt about this as well. When I speak, people just assume that I'm being rude. And speaking what I feel, in this beautiful tone have people call me blunt more often than not.
I've always believed in one thing. 'Hit me with the truth'. I rarely compliment people, because I am someone who is not pleased very often. I have my own sense of style be it in fashion or in writing. So when I meet people and they compliment me, they expect something in return. Yeah, almost like a return receipt. But I keep mum. Because if I said something, I know they would get offended. And I'm not the one to lie. Firstly, because it is hard for me . Second, because I think they need to know the truth. Well, someone has to stop them from wearing clothes that are clearly two sizes smaller than what they should be wearing. Call me blunt if you want to, but believe me I'm doing the world a favor!
People who know me, understand the tone of my voice. Even though I sound like a screeching orangutan at times, people know I'm talking normally. My close friends love the fact that I'm blunt and tell things as they are. Well, they do get pissed at times but eventually they do come around. In my honest opinion, every one should be blunt. Believe me, it would help a lot of people. I know that most people accept the situation and try to make the best of it. But there are quite a few who live in denial like forever and expect people to feed their fantasy. I stay at least two miles away from such people.
I'd rather not know people who cannot handle the truth. I agree it is not easy, but eventually you need to make peace with it. If I'm pointing out something, no matter how trivial it is, it is only because it exists. If I'm making up stuff, blame me by all means. But I am not! I think all of us should look at the world and accept the blunt edges of it. If you try to be too sharp, you're gonna cut yourself anyway. I sure have had some bad experiences when I've offered my blunt opinion. That doesn't make me not do it anymore. This is who I am. As blunt as it can get. I'm happy, so thank you very much.
I'd rather be called blunt, instead of someone desperately trying to fit into the fake sharp edges of this superficial world.
P.S: I just realized that the title of this post is also the name of my hair salon. So blunt and I go a long way back.
Bluntness! The world needs more blunt people. Specially when there are people all over, screaming about their imaginary problems which are as tiny as ants!
ReplyDeleteI try to be as blunt as possible when I deal with people, but it's for a completely different reason: Sometimes I just don't want to talk to some people. I'm not being judgemental, I just dislike interacting with people sometimes. When I feel normal, I am pretty diplomatic. I say rude things in a way that doesn't seem rude, but doesn't seem glossed over too. Don't know how I do it, it just happens.
Have a great Sunday tomorrow.
P.S.: I was waiting for your post, and wanted to read it before logging off. :)
Did you write about a younger me? Yes, I have mellowed down a bit over the years, but I do believe in calling a spade a spade too, no sugar coating, fancy flowery words for me. True, it offends a lot of people, but am ok with a guilt free conscience :D
ReplyDeleteIt is brave to speak your heart, Soumya. And as much as I know, this is one excellent trait in you. Be blunt. Be bold :)
ReplyDeleteBlunt people are mostly misunderstood.
ReplyDeleteYes BBLUNT IS THE NAME OF A SALON.
Straight from the heart and yes blunt with rounded off edges:-)
ReplyDeleteHa ha! Blunt, bold, brave - you are you and that's why you are loved! Totally agree - how many people can be as true as you are?
ReplyDeleteI was advised before my marriage that I should not be so blunt to my in-laws or the new family. I should mellow down myself to should be tamed down and what not. But fortunately that's not me. And I love blunt people, because they are the only ones whom you can really rely upon for a true opinion. SO be bluntly beautiful as you are now! :)
ReplyDeleteI need some of you in me Soumya. Sometimes I wish I could tell people the way it is but it just doesn't come to me. If I have to give someone a piece of my mind I have to plan and plan and rehearse before I can get it out. Sigh! I'd certainly appreciate a friend like you.
ReplyDeleteGlad to come across someone who shies away from sugarcoating. The world has enough of those.Being brave enough to be honest and lead a guilt-free life is a blessing.
ReplyDeleteAs far people, those who matter will understand and the rest have 7 billion others to feed their egos.
Looking forward to your further posts for the A to Z challenge :)
Its great to be true to who you are. My hubby and mom are pretty blunt too and I know for sure that people who call a spade a spade, have nothing hidden in their hearts, no hidden agenda, no manipulation, they are as clean and pure can be.
ReplyDeleteShubhangi @ The Little Princess
I'm just going to smile as I read this. And no comment :)
ReplyDeleteI could totally relate to this post, 'coz I'm like that too. Blunt. Never been anything else. Never could be. But I feel we should just be whatever comes naturally to us. No need to fit in.
ReplyDelete- Chicky @ www.mysteriouskaddu.com
Whether blunt or not, its good to be yourself than think about the judgements of people who don't even matter.
ReplyDeleteBlunt!! Indeed I also agree, rather be blunt than silly. Sugar coating does not always work. Good going.
ReplyDeleteCould you add your twitter handle to the twitter link above. Also the #atozchallenge to your posts.
*Inderpreet/EloquentArticulation*
"I said I love you and that's forever
ReplyDeleteAnd this I promise from my heart
I couldn't love you any better
I love you just the way you are."
Just the way you are by Billy Joel
Hugs!
I am not very blunt,but at times I am. But yes, my husband, is blunt.. but ofcourse, he will not give his opinion, unless asked for. And when you ask him one... you have to be ok.. to get a not very pleasing opinion..
ReplyDeleteAnd that is exactly what reflects not just in your personality, but also in the fiction and poetry you write. You go girl! Be blunt, be bold, be you.
ReplyDeleteoh yes... we need more honesty and bluntness!
ReplyDeleteNot many people are... I today's world - with all the fakeness and the sugar coating and the whatnot - I think being blunt is a refreshing change
To be honest and say it as it is, that's important. yes. :) And of course, to continue to be who you are; being blunt is not something people accept, but it's important not to change for others.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who ain't scared of calling spade a spade and I love her for that. I am sure those who know you are absolutely grateful to have someone who can tell the truth and give unbiased opinions. To be blunt needs guts and you are pretty brave already :)
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Oh I kept nodding my head all the time reading this!! I have been told so many time that I should speak softly and such sorts, but I think it doesn't really matter. For the people who know us will accept us as we are!
ReplyDeleteNibha @ Expressions
That is what makes you a Lioness. You do not stop and listen to what dogs have to say about you..
ReplyDeleteIt is almost a Luxury to know someone who speaks his/her mind no matter how offending it sounds..
That is what makes you a Lioness. You do not stop and listen to what dogs have to say about you..
ReplyDeleteIt is almost a Luxury to know someone who speaks his/her mind no matter how offending it sounds..