Personally, I'm not someone who likes to have a lot of friends. I believe that more the number of people around you, more the chaos. I choose to have a small number of friends and I absolutely love it that way. I do not talk to all of them everyday, but I know that they will be there for me no matter what. A normal day for me starts by 7 in the morning with cooking and cleaning, followed by office, then back home, a few hours of reading/writing and then back to cooking and cleaning. I already am struggling to manage my several hobbies with the limited time I'm blessed with, and a few people I know complain that I do not stay in touch with them. And by people I mean random people, not even friends!
Social media has bridged the communication gap for most of us, but I wouldn't call liking someone's post as staying in touch with them. Someone actually told me this once that they like all my stuff on Facebook but I don't return the favor as I do not want to stay in touch with them. Well, they got the hint but they just did not act on it! People who I want to stay in touch with, I already am. My best friend and I don't talk everyday but we make sure we meet up as often as we can and we talk on the phone as often as we can too. For me, staying in touch with a person means physically being around them once in a while and not only via phone or any other means of social media. And for those who matter to me, I'm always in touch with them.
I have also noticed that the most people who complain about me not staying in touch with them are the ones who have never made an effort to plan a meeting or even call for that matter. Friendship or any other relationship that is important is always a two way street and efforts need to be made from both sides. But no! Some people just randomly message you on Facebook and out rightly blame you for not staying in touch with them, just because I now am a blogger. Someone even told me that the success has gone to my head, hence I'm avoiding people. Believe me, even if I became as famous as J. K. Rowling and had a castle of my own, I'd still be the person that I am. And if you are important to me, you'll still be a part of my life then too.
Social media lets us keep a tab on almost every one's life. We know who is dating whom, who went where for a vacation, how many babies one has etc etc. But do you bother to pick up the phone and talk to atleast 5% of them? I doubt it. As much as I'm an extrovert, I only like to have a handful of people close to me. I take out time as often as I can to meet them or at least talk to them on a regular basis. I know what is going on in the lives of people who matter to me. I'm not the one to pretend to like people and make random phone calls just for the sake of it. It is as simple as it can get. If you are an important part of my life, I'll stay in touch with you. Else, no.
When I don't hear from these people once in a while, I make the effort to talk or meet them. It's not an ego battle here. Maybe some of them are actually busy. But if I find out that some people are just not bothered and I am the only one making the effort all the time, I'll stop immediately. Sadly, patience has never been a virtue of mine.
You tell me, how often do you stay in touch with the people who matter to you? And if they do not reciprocate what do you do?
P.S: This is my 1111th post! :)