Being Bold


Ever since I have started by blog, the word that is most associated with me has been 'Bold'.  I know it is the first word in my description, but that has been from my point of view. I did not know that others also will perceive me to be bold based on what I write only. Maybe they are right, may be not. Even when BlogAdda interviewed me, they asked me that if I had to face any hard situations because I come across as a bold person. I was startled by the question, but I think I replied what I felt then. I still feel the same now too. I am a really simple person. I wouldn't fall into the argument of being an optimist or a pessimist. I am a realist. Call me blunt or practical, but that is who I am and that is why I'm so happy today. I live life on my own terms and face the consequences myself. I am strong enough to do that. If that is called being bold, then so be it.

I do not believe in God much, although I know that there is a super power. I do not frequent temples or pray. I have been this way for the 27 years of my life and I have faced no problems because of it. I have certain other beliefs and I stick by it, no matter what. Honesty. Its the first thing I look for in any person I meet. That is the most important think in my life and shall remain. If by being honest in life, I'm being bold, then its a good thing. Right? Someone once told me that I was a coward. I was amused. I laughed for a while and then got it out of my system. People have their opinions, I have mine. Not having to defend or justify the truth, is what I believe. If that is being a coward, then please google the word. If I had lied, then hell would have consumed me by now. I spoke the truth and stuck by it. That is my definition if being bold. I'm not trying to be a Mahatma here by preaching honesty, its something that I follow and shall continue to follow. Others can make their own assumptions about it.


I do not do things just for the heck of it. I shall only do things, if I want to do it. And once I start it, I make sure I put in all my effort and passion into it until I complete it successfully. Be it cleaning, cooking, painting or writing. Also I shall only write about things that I believe in. I do not want to be a hypocrite myself. Just because it is a contest with awesome goodies to be won, I will not write if the topic is something that does not matter to me. Like for example, there was a contest where the prize was a Lenovo tablet and I had to write about a day I spend with it and how it helps me. Personally, I hate the idea of a tablet itself. Be it an ipad or a kindle. I need a phone and a laptop. Nothing in between. Hence, I did not take part in the contest. Same with the recent Sunsilk contest where you had to write about how your life will be recharged if your hair is recharged. Maybe it makes sense to some people but for me it absolutely did not. First, I have awesome hair and do not find the need to recharge it. Second, I do not believe that recharging your hair will change your life in any way. I mean, people actually thought it would? I could be bald and still successful and do all the things I want to. Maybe just talking about this will term me as bold too.

(Yes, that's my natural hair!)

I believe in being true to myself and loving myself before anyone else. Probably that makes me a narcissist and I'm totally fine with being called that. I need to love and embrace myself before I can love others. I need to be confident within myself before I can go out and meet new people. Am I the only one who believes in the 'Love Yourself' phenomena? Does that mean I'm doing a bold thing? Wow, probably I deserve more accolades than I get. Nonsense. I talk about my past freely because I do not regret it. Cal knows about my past and doesn't care two hoots about it because he believes in me. A friend of mine once told me to not tell "everything" to my husband to be. Of course I did not pay heed to it and opened my life in front of him. He fell in love with me more because of it. He must be bold too right? The next thing we know people will be calling us a bold couple, almost making it seem like we are doing drugs and parading around naked in the neighborhood.

Just because I hold on to my drink and can walk straight after a quarter, doesn't mean I am bold. It means I am someone who can hold on to her drink, how difficult is it to understand? Just because I fight with the rickshaw driver regarding extra fare, doesn't mean I am bold. I am someone who works really hard for money and do not like to waste it on greedy imbeciles. Just because I do not join the sycophancy group, does not mean that I am bold. It means that I have my own opinions. Just because I wear shorts on a vacation doesn't mean I am bold. It means that I am on a vacation and seriously what else would you wear on a beach? Just because I choose to live my life the way I want to, doesn't mean that I'm bold. Wait, on second thoughts it actually means that. It takes a lot of guts to do what you actually want to do and I make sure I do it. Without bothering about what others would say or what the society would think.


I refuse to be a slave to prejudice and society. If that means I am bold, then please call me that. 

Loud.

~ Soumya

48 comments:

  1. I enjoyed reading this post Soumya. I am glad that you refuse to be a slave to society and thats how you and every girl should be. Its important because if you are not that strong, this society is going to crush you. I love your strong personality. And if you are bold, we all love the way you are! Also, you are lucky to get a husband who loves you despite knowing everything. Most girls are unlucky in this regard. Your friend must have said that because thats what a whole lot of women in out culture do. I cant blame them because they are pretty helpless in this regard and also, if they start telling stuff about their past, chances are that they are going to be disowned. And I loved what you said about writing and cooking and all the activities. I believe in doing it with passion or nothing at all. I dont prefer ipads or tablets. Touch phones freak me out too. I am so outdated as compared to all the cool teenagers around me. LOL! And your hair, unfortunately I cant see the picture. Blogger problem. The picture is not showing up. It happened a lot with me recently and I had to fix it twice and thrice. What you said about hair is so true. Having good hair cant change your life. It may have some influence and that depends from person to person but for me, it wont work much! I ll try doing that someday. I wonder if its going to be fun! xo

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    1. Loved it and Yes you are Bold and you gotta feel proud of that

      I too feel the same about this random contest and bestest of bloggers participating just for the sake of it..I am becoming one of them too , I believe..

      Your new header is not showing me the comment box , so i had to reply on RIDX comment,..

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    2. @Ridx, thank you for your wonderful comment. Believe me at times it is best to be outdated in terms of technology. I'm glad you relate to my thoughts :)

      Try the hair experiment and let me know how it goes! Hugs!

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    3. @Enchantress, I am proud, so thank you :)

      The comment box seems to be working fine, can you please check again. Still, thanks for leaving a comment :)

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  2. I have loved the way you write with a certain ease, a certain command over the language. Some people may consider being bold as a 'not so great' attribute. But as long you are loved, happy and successful in your life. Who cares what they think. Yes it takes guts to do what you love and not live a life deemed right by the society.

    P.S : I LOVE your hair. It's gorgeous. *knock on wood*

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    1. Thank you for this awesome comment Anisha! :)

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  3. Truth be told - the world loves a doormat. Especially if it's a woman. Every other girl is bold. Just be yourself and don't care about what others think. That is the only way to live a normal life!
    Bold or not - you are simply awesome :)

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    1. The perfect truth it is. I can't be that and never will. I am the way I am.

      Thanks darling! :)

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  4. Honesty is the first thing that I look in a person too and that's what attracted me to your blog as well - your honesty!!
    Whether u are bold or not , we love the way you are :) .

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  5. Giving in to the society's whims and fancies should always be the last thing to do.

    You're doing great love.. let the whole world and these stupid tags, go to hell.

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  6. I love you Soumya, I really do .. for who you are :)

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  7. you go girl !! be the way you are. life is awesome without having to bother about society and all the crap \m/
    Cheers !!

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    1. Life is totally awesome :D

      Cheers babe!

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  8. You can never please everyone at the same time. So why not please yourself without bothering about others! It was a lovely post,Soumya! :) Just be who you are. To hell with others' "opinions" :p I hope I don't sound bold here. :D

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    1. Haha you do sound bold :P

      Thank you Preeti!

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  9. You know, it really irkes me when people say "He/she loves me in spite of knowing my past". What is the big deal about it? Unless your past had you bombing the WTC or being a serial rapist, there is nothing to be ashamed of. Having failed relationships is not a crime. Judging a person based on it is. Relationships and breakups are a part of life. It means you are capable of loving another human being. It means you know the good from bad. So the question to ask is, does your partner love you 'inspite' of all that, or 'for' all that? But I know that's not how society sees it. And I think it is bullshit.

    Now who poked the sleeping dragon in you? :p

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    1. 'For' is the key word for you and me. We don't know about the others right? Bull shit it sure is.

      Who poked? Well, its been lurking in my mind for quite a while now. Had to get it out. Lets leave it at that :)

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  10. And this whole nonsense of not telling everything to your partner/husband! What the fuck is that! So the relationship ended. That means you have loads of funny stories to tell now. :p And by funny I mean, "what was I thinking" stories. :D

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    1. Totally agree. Cal and me laugh out loud at these talk :)

      It would have been so boring if not for these comic tales :P

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  11. Are you serious about that contest? Recharfing your life by recharging your hair?? Because life is that simple, isn't it? "Oh look! I have wonderful hair! My life is perfect now." The sheer stupidity of it all.

    Alright alright. I'll stop spamming you now.

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    1. Oh you have to see some of the contest entries. You will laugh your ass off :P

      Spam? And you? No way my love :)

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  12. The best thing you can do for yourself is be what you are..seriously being someone else, living in a pretense is the worst job in world..I wouldn't do it even if someone gives me IIFA. Yes! I am bold and I am bold enough to manifest it.

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  13. Hope you stay that way and are treated by others for what you are and not what they want you to become.
    Besides, your hair do stand out as a mane (Leo much? :P), though manes usually belong to lions.

    Cheers,
    Blasphemous Aesthete

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    1. Yeah I have a Leo mane, just like how I have a masculine side to me :)

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  14. That's a wonderful post, reinforcing the truth... really, be the Leo that you are! :D It's amazing! :)

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  15. Whats wrong with this word. I love being bold. Bold is much better than stubborn, arrogant, head-strong and what-not, with which people tagged me. But who cares! :)

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    1. Nothing's wrong with the word. Its the interpretation of it, that is wrong!

      Who cares anyway! :)

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  16. You are not BOLD...you are LEO!!! :D
    And that hair....GIVE IT TO MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!
    I like your self love!! It is the best thing you can gift to yourself!

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    1. Thank you darling! I guess I'm blessed with the mallu genes when it comes to hair :)

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    2. Okay so that is why Mallus are missing those genes ! Take my balding head for example.

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    3. Oops! I don't know what to say to that one :P

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  17. Agree to what RED said. If a woman has the guts to hold on to her personality then she is BOLD. However Bold is a word , which people think its meaning is 'oversmart' , but actually it means, to have a steady head and a strong backbone. You need it to live in this society. I am also BOLD among some of my relatives, may be because I wear sleeveles or because I blog or whatever. But we dont need to care. Because whatever we do , society makes its remarks. So its important to live on our own terms and be labelled BOLD than live the life of others.

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    1. Bold because you blog? Wow, that's a first! Crazy people out there huh!

      I'm glad we choose life the way we want to live and have partners who support us through it! We're blessed :)

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  18. Just think about this, if you take the mean of the IQs of all the people in the society it will be somewhere around average score. Now what this actually means is, half the people are below average in IQ. :P The crowd is always wrong and stupid. Add to this ignorance and false knowledge, and we can come to the conclusion that, it would be best not to pay heed to what the society says. A person is most beautiful when they are themselves. Period. :-)

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    1. Hahaha awesome explanation that! :)

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  19. Excellent, Soumya! May we all continue to be 'bold' :)
    I agree with whatever you have stated. Some points are really hilarious! Yes, society judges us! But, it isn't paying our bills! :)
    Honesty is important to me too. Hence, even I didn't take part in the Lenovo Tablet contest! I have to have a real story to share else I'm not being honest writing for a contest. I had two personal hair-stories, so I shared :) I have decided to write about what I feel without being scared!
    That makes me bold too though like you, even I'm pretty simple :) Cheers! :)

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    1. I'm so proud of you and you are indeed bold! :)

      Thank you! Cheers!

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