Everything one does comes under a scanner these days. The world has become such a place now that you can't even pee without some one else knowing. What we do, can either garner appreciation or criticism, but is rarely ignored. Since more than half of our lives are now led online, we need to be prepared for both. And we all know by now, that, not everyone can handle criticism. I'm not talking about the Bollywood movies, I'm talking about day to day things here. It can be a status posted on Facebook or a retweet on Twitter. If you put up something, you need to stand by it. No matter whose opinion it is. If it was your choice to put it up on social media, the least you can do is put up with the repercussions.
I get a lot of flak for my blog posts. No, not surprising at all. I know that more than half of my readers visit my blog regularly and secretly wish that I drop dead. Great! I do care two hoots about it. Some even leave condescending comments as anonymous or using fake names and email ids. Slow salute for their patience! I make sure I publish such comments, and even reply to them. Most of them come back, see the reply and silently delete the original comment. Slow salute again! If you can't deal with what comes after your spewed venom, please swallow it yourself.
Someone I know posted a selfie on Facebook. Her lips looked so swollen that I was worried. I commented asking if something happened to her lips. She promptly deleted my comment and blocked me. Turns out, it was a pout. Believe me it looked like a pig's lip job gone wrong. And then we have this string of status messages like, 'Good Morning', 'Have a happy Sunday' etc. My fingers itch to type something in return. I put up a picture of my pin board which said 'Finding the G spot' in it. I was referring to finding the G spot in the business that I plan to start soon. Many commented asking what it was along with a lot of smileys and sneering. I promptly replied back what it was. I was prepared to deal with what ever followed.
Its very easy to put up something online for the sake of it or to show off, but it takes a lot of balls to deal with the criticism that comes your way. I visit so many blogs that have a lot of grammatical errors or a fiction piece that does not make sense. I have always been honest with my comments and point out the error politely or mention that probably I missed something in the story. Most of the times, the posts are deleted. Very few acknowledge my correction and thank me. I like such people. Unless you accept that you made a mistake, you cannot accept feedback. Very proudly we display our comment section on blogs, but how many of us actually publish all the all comments that come our way?
Facebook seems to be Fakebook these days. With everyone faking pictures, stealing quotes and blatant plagiarism in articles, no one cares about what comes next. Everyone needs the appreciation to gloat, but one comment mentioning the truth and then hell breaks loose. I still remember the furor a post of mine caused, for writing the truth. I was criticised to no end and the anger still continues. I accepted all of it because I knew that I was not wrong. The very reason, why I publish crass comments that come my way and reply to them.
Handling criticism is an art, that needs to be acquired. And for that, acceptance is mandatory.