T - Trespassers


For some reason I absolutely love the word trespassers. I like the way it sounds, giving the person saying it a stylish accent. I have been aware of this word for quite a while now, but it caught my interest only a while ago. I have never had the chance to include this word as part of a conversation (apparently I did once, but I cannot remember). Thanks to all the attention that people are giving to my life these days, I feel like I should carry a placard with me that says 'Trespassers will be prosecuted'. I do not like interference any where. Be it in my professional life or personal, unsolicited advice or opinion is not something that I will take lightly. If you have managed to trespass and enter my area, the best you do is shut up. Quietly watch what is happening and leave. If you decide to ask unnecessary questions then be prepared to hear a mouthful.

I like silence. I like to do things by myself without having anybody around. Especially at work. Most of my writing happens at work, so when some of my colleagues pass by my desk they peer to see what I am doing. "Oh you write?", "Is that your blog?", "Send me the link now", "What are you writing about?", "Let me see." etc etc are only some of the things that I have to witness everyday. I do not mind the questions as much as their eyes peeping into my laptop and trying to read the words. It annoys the living day lights out of me. I mean how hard is it to leave a person alone. I tell them that I shall send them the link and that they can read it once the post is published. Yet, some people refuse to remove their nose for my screen.

Trespassing is a bad thing, be it in the literal sense of otherwise. If someone needs something, they will come to you right? Who is asking you to jump into their lives to find the problem and then try to find a solution for it. Once this colleague was crying in the washroom. This is how the scene unfolded.

Me: "What happened? All okay?"

Her: "Yes."

Me: "Anything serious? Can I help?"

Her: "No, its personal. Thanks."

Me: "No problem. Take care."

The other girl with me: "Hey tell na what happened? Love issues? Family problems eh? Tell tell."

I wanted to just disappear that minute. In fact I did. I left the place and do not know what happened after that.


The only place where I like people asking questions are at work and in meetings. But there are more than enough people on this planet who open their gobs for every small thing trespassing into every territory in their vicinity. These kind of people, I loathe. I am an extrovert myself who is known to talk nineteen to a dozen. But I talk, do not ask. There is a difference. The craziest breed that I have met are the beauticians in salons. My god, those ladies are extremely irritating. They want to know everything happening in your family and what you are going to do next. And they do not know where to draw the line. My parlour lady once asked me when I am planning to have a baby. I said not any time sooner. She then smiles and says, "Good, enjoy with your husband until then." I wanted to plunge her own scissors down her throat.

Everyone should be aware of their limits. I do not go on discussing my sex life with everyone I find. And then there are those people who talk and explain about every single thing that happened in their bed room last night. Dude, are you aware that you are trespassing on someone else's dis-comfort area? I'm sure not. We all have trespassers in our life who need to be reminded of their limits. Some people I know peep into other peoples phones to check what they are doing. I mean, seriously? I had this friend of mine who once visited my place and wanted to check all my clothes. No kidding. She walked up to my cupboard and started pulling out all my clothes and checking them out, even trying a few. Needless to say that we are not friends anymore. 


According to me, all trespassers should be prosecuted without leaving any survivors. We owe it to ourselves.

~ Soumya

34 comments:

  1. Very true!! Some people just can't take a hint and refuse to keep their noses out of other people's affairs.

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  2. hahah....she actually checked out all ur clothes??
    and yes..u shud have plunged the scissors down her throat :P
    Ok good u did not!

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    1. She did. And tried on some too!

      Haha, I wouldn't be writing this if I had! :)

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  3. Hope I am not trespassing by commenting here!! Just kidding :D
    I know, people's prying eyes, nosing around can be pretty irritating and bugging!

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    1. You are most welcome here Shilpa! :)

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  4. Well I thought it, you wrote it! Trespassing is one thing that I can never tolerate. It annoys the hell outta me. Sometimes relatives or friends too do this though they mean well generally. It is so frustrating to let them know that they are crossing the line without actually hurting them because they don't take the feedback so well. Damn!

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    1. Who cares how they take it! Just give it back to them.

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  5. Well, I like it when people are curious about my life... it makes me feel like a celebrity!!!!

    I'm curious in nature. I love to know about people and their lives. I don't dig personal information but I do ask general questions. It enlightens me...haha!! And tell me, if you are in your house and your neighbour is screaming at the top of her voice, would you move to the next room? That's what happens with me sometimes. I've always had aggressive neighbours and I've overheard some very valuable information!!! Ok kill me ...now!!!

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  6. People reading something you are writing over the shoulder - the bane of my life. Ugghhh. And there IS no polite way of saying fuck off, is there. So we gotta do what we gotta do and if they brand us rude, then so be it.

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    1. Exactly! They already have judged me rude, so I just strengthen their belief :)

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  7. Happened with me too.." good enjoy with ur husband till den lol " losers they are.

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  8. Once I was getting my hair done, and I was checking facebook from my phone. The lady spotted one of my friend's pics and asked...Is that your husband?
    Yes ! Trespassers should be prosecuted ! And I get so irritated when people look into my computer screen behind my back..!

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    1. OMG! Seriously? I would have told her no, that's somebody else's husband in my arms. Just to watch her reaction I might have done that ;)

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  9. I have people sticking their faces on my screen in office, too! :/
    And how could anyone have the audacity to walk to your cupboard and check out your clothes? :O
    Good, you are not friends with her anymore!

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    1. Thank God! Believe me, there are a lot of people out there who are capable of doing that!

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  10. I like my space..even in friendships..I can't do with the sharing everything about my life..i get a lot of taunts from a lot of people for being the silent one. similarly,as you said..you can talk without asking questions...i like that bit...i do practice it too!

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  11. dear god!! these in-your-face kinds are everywhere..and they are pretty interested in what's going on in someone else's life..perhaps nothing interesting going on in theirs!

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  12. That thing about people checking other's phone ... I hate it. Our space is our personal lives, and not everyone should intrude (y)

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  13. My clothes, shoes and books - if people touch them without my permission I feel like punching them in the face. Am a very private person and this post is totally for me!
    p.s - Thanks for the shout out in the previous post :)

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    1. You should I think.

      You are always welcome :)

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  14. I like gossips and rumours as long as they are not about me and I like knowing people's secret and stuff as long as they don't ask for mine...

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    1. That's some how not right. If today it is someone, tomorrow it can be you too. Think about it :)

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  15. Yes! The blackhole wins. We have a family game: rock, paper, anything. The blackhole used to be the trump, until we introduced blackhole-spray. =)

    There's definitely a line when it comes to being nosy or TMI, but I think there's a polite way to shut people down. Being offended by someone sharing too much or too little is rather silly. Everyone needs to be heard at some point. You just might be filling a need that no one else can.

    True Heroes from A to Z

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    1. Blackhole spray sounds good :D

      well, some people are born silly. Or obnoxious. There is no other way to get them in place rather than place the truth in front of them. Filling a need doesn't mean that you breach your own comfort zone right?

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  16. omg so trueeeee! thats what people do all the time. and I like talking too but well theres a big difference. you know what? one thing I really hate is people standing over me when I am writing. I feel so irritated about this thing. Otherwise I am like okay because I am used to all that but when I am writing, I need to be alone.

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    1. Me too! I cannot write when other people are looking. I feel like stabbing them.

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  17. Personal space. Sadly some people JUST don't get it!

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