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W: Woman Vs Woman #AtoZChallenge

In today's world of crying out for feminism, women are failing to notice one big thing. While there is a group of women holding slogans and screaming out for equal rights, there also is another group that does not want women to have equal rights as that of men. This second group is more often than not led by a woman. In the almost three decades of my existence as a woman, I have tried my best to succeed in every step of my life. But the ones who wanted to hold me back and point a finger at me were always women. When a woman climbs up the corporate ladder, a lot of them think that she's sleeping her way to the top. In the group that thinks so, there at least will be one or two women. Maybe women cannot handle each other's success. If that's the case then this whole act of feminism is a facade. It should be called selfishism instead.

A mother-in-law will not spare a moment to find faults in her son's wife. The daughter-in-law would be a working lady and would not be able to do all the chores at home. Instead of helping her get a work-life balance, these MILs taunt their DILs time and again. Some of them are asked to quit their job and take care of the house instead, while the MIL would hibernate in front of the TV. If these MILs helped their DILs in managing the house, the DIL would excel at her job with all the support from home. But does anyone do that? No. Maybe the MIL thinks that since the DIL is successful at work, she would not respect her. Or she could be plain jealous of the fact that her son's wife is making money while she couldn't.

I have also seen cases where a mother cannot believe that her son is taking such good care of his wife. She did not get it from her husband, so how could some one else? Soon, the son is called henpecked and everyone around is subject to drama and stress. Most of the times, the one who is trying to bring down a woman is another woman herself. In my opinion, all women are born feminists. Obviously everyone wants to be treated equally. If a woman says that she is not a feminist, then she is saying that she is an enemy of women. I still know a lot of women who think that a woman's place is in the kitchen and her husband's feet. There are are a lot of women who think that if a woman is given equal rights, she would not be able to handle it.

This is happening in 2016, can you believe it? We women are supposed to think from the heart, but it looks like a lot of us are becoming heartless of late. Women trouble each other in every way possible. I have seen women troubling their maids and ill treating them. Can't a woman understand the plight of another? After all she is only trying to make a living for her family here. Slut shaming is very prevalent these days and there are loads of women who point a finger at another woman regarding their sense of dressing. A woman who raises her voice is consider "rude" by another woman. A woman who wears a skirt to work is considered a "whore" by another woman. If a man has an extra marital affair, the wife is quick to blame the other woman instead of her husband. Sad, isn't it?

More than men considering menstruation to be impure, women are the ones who think they are dirty while on their period. Such women makes the lives of their daughters, sisters, daughters-in-law and any other woman around them very difficult. If there is an argument between a man and a woman, another woman wants the woman to give up and compromise. Since she's a woman, she has to adjust they say. I say, why? Why are we women hell bent upon ruining the lives of other women? If you can't help out another woman, then please just let them be instead.

Don't trouble her when she has already enough troubles in this world. Don't point a finger at her when there are enough of that too. Consider her to be you for a second. What would you do then? Would you think that women are not allowed to do these things and walk away or would you admire her strength and courage and go ahead with what you want to do?


  1. I think the saddest part is that - as u mentioned - this is still happening in 2016. It feels like one of those old 90s Hindi film plots (Beta etc)... but the truth is there are so many instances in India where it is still a reality in some form. And not even necessarily rural areas or some such

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  2. This is precisely the argument I was having with a friend of mine recently. Women can be bitches! Especially true in the corporate world, each waiting for the other to trip and fall flat, snigger behind the back and lend a hand of support at the same time! Domestic scenario is no better when there are scales of comparison, past revenges and petty scheming to be done. All of us experience this, it does leave you embittered and really so sad.
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  3. Word by word - I am with you there. If only women stood together, things would have been so much easier.

  4. I know a dear friend of mine who is struggling at her place because of her MIL. Just because she is good at everything and takes so good care of the house, the family and work as well, plus she's beautiful and soft spoken, comes from a good family, yet her MIL castigates every now and then. The MIL is just so insecure. I sometimes wonder, where the hell is my friend stuck!

  5. While both men and women look at people of their own sex as competitors for a lot of reasons, but women are their own worst enemies, truly. It's sad that such things happen in this age and time!

  6. Very's sad that women get the least support from their own kind. And unfortunately, it is such women who are responsible for their men's attitudes towards women.

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  7. Well captured. The true world of women!

  8. And just today I heard a girl telling the other one how she should treat her MIL after wedding.. and how she is handling hers, as she set the expectations in the early days of marraige, so now her MIL knows she cannot be a superwoman and has no ridiculous expectations from her


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