X: X-Rated Hypocrisy

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Warning: This post contains more than one occurrence of the words sex, porn, fu*k etc. If such words are known to hurt your religious or any other beliefs, then please stop reading right now. Or if you want to spread the word and inform people about the "vulgar" things I write about, then it is time to start dialing now!

"It was not like this during our times", "The new generation is so dirty", "Women these days need to dress properly", "The Internet is to blame for all this", "She is of bad character, look at what she is wearing". How many time have we heard our elders use these words? Atleast for me it has been one too many times. I remember years ago when MTV was huge and we had awesome music on it. These days all they have are serials after serials. But about ten to fifteen years ago, it was all about what the channel stood for. Music. My grandmother used to sit, frown and cuss when my cousins and I used to watch this particular channel. She thought that this channel shows porn as the veejays were skimpily dressed. One day she sat me down and told me that I am not supposed to watch such channels and I should inform my brothers of the same too as she is "shy" to have this talk with them. I said okay. Then we sat down to watch an episode of Mahabharata. The women there wore no blouses, bathed in public and were married to several men. The men leched at women and put them at stake while gambling. That was when I decided to have the talk with her. Well, it explains why I was her least favorite grand child.

Always our elders talk about how neat and perfect things were during their time and how things have gone bad now. I believe that things were always bad. Back then it was done behind closed doors and now it is done in the open. If you ask me to choose the better era I would choose the new one because atleast people are honest about what they are doing. It is the age of pre-marital sex now and have you noticed that no matter what the topic is, a few elders can always connect it to sex. And have you also noticed that it is only the middle aged people who obsess about sex so much and discuss it in detail. They want to know what protection you are using, how often do you do it, and how you do it. If a husband and a wife are spending some time in their room, it doesn't mean that they are having sex. They might be working or reading for God's sake. If a woman wakes up late, it doesn't mean that her husband kept her "up" all night. He might be snoring for all you know. If a woman is in a hurry to finish the chores and retire to bed, it is because she is exhausted and wants to sleep. Not because she is in a hurry to go get laid.

We are one hell of a hypocritical nation. The land of the Kamasutra having images like these on our monuments. We shy about introducing sex education in schools, but watch porn in political meetings. And some old uncle will always have something to comment about a woman, her body or her clothes. Same with old aunties as well. They talk about sex like it is a taboo. If they think it is taboo then why on earth did they indulge in it? Our population does not tend to show us that sex is a taboo. I mean seriously, what the fu*k were you guys doing? Oops, I might have just answered my question here.

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Have you seen old movies where a man is trying to seduce his maid in the absence of his wife, or a woman being gaped at by a crowd of men. No, I am not talking about porn flicks here. They are a different story all together. When will the old generation ever understand that Internet does not mean porn alone. Knocking at the door of your son's room to check what he is doing is a disgusting thing to do. Commenting on the clothes a woman wears is nobody's business. The clothes women wore during their era is worthy to be mentioned here. Atleast in the south, there was this concept called half sarees. This is a hideous costume where you wear a blouse, a matching skirt and drape a veil around yourself like a saree. This leaves your stomach, waist and hips exposed. And a woman wearing jeans these days is of bad character. Wonderful!

Sex was the most important activity during their times and all people would do was to either have sex or talk about it. These days I have come across so many middle aged people who have nothing else to talk about. If I tell them that I'm going on a vacation, they smirk and say that it is a honeymoon. If my husband is letting me be the way I am, it means he is doing that only because I'm providing him sex. Some women would even want to know the menstruation details of a woman. How many days?  It is disgusting to say the least. If you think about all the people who have made noise in the Virat-Anushka controversy, those are the middle aged uncles who have nothing else to do. If you look at the people who talk about a girl's character, they are those old aunties who watch serials just to know who is sleeping with whom. If it is a dance competition and a man and a woman are dancing closely, it is assumed that they are sleeping together.

It is their minds that are dirty. The new generation atleast has the balls to do things out in the open. If the elders tell me that there were no rapes, no porn, no homosexuality during their times, I would laugh my ass off. That is the problem with our country. Anything behind closed doors is accepted, but do it out in the open and it is blasphemy. Today we live in a country where a man is allowed to rape, but a woman is not allowed to masturbate. And it is not only the men who believe in it. Honestly, the people who talk about sex, and ill about women are mostly women. They watch their bloody crappy serials on TV where everyone is sleeping with everyone and enjoy the show. And then they try to connect it with real life. The elder generation is single minded and that is their problem. Being broad minded to them means accepting sex and the things associated with it. They can talk about it, and it will run in their minds 24x7, but they will not accept it.

If this is not hypocrisy, then what is?

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24 comments:

  1. Agree, agree and agree. It is hypocrisy when you say one thing and practice another. The worst crowd are the old aunties and uncles like you mentioned. They are all the more curious to know about other people's sex lives. Why no kids? Any problem? Is the problem for you or your husband? You don't want kids?! Unthinkable! I can go on and on. Aargh! If only such people could mind their own business.

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    1. Aarrghhh! Been there sistah.

      I feel like punching such aunties right where it hurts.

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  2. I guess this is more prevalent in your part of the world Soumya. I am of the older generation and my friends and I certainly don't think that way. Maybe the east is slow at catching up with the west. Could be a good thing mind you.

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    1. I'm so glad that it is not like this out there Jo. Sadly, Indians have this innate quality of relating almost anything to sex.

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  3. Good point about hypocrisy! Sometimes I think it's the human condition.

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  4. Well, you certainly spoke your mind ;) Breathe now. Slow, stirring breaths. Okay? People won't change unless the onus comes from within. That's how it's always been

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    1. Always. Sadly, this will never change.

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  5. Very bold and intense writing .. Fact and truth unveiled ..liked it a lot soumya

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  6. Soumya, I'm glad you "have the balls" - ;) - to write about this (just teasing, thus the wink) as I so agree with your comments. There were always these issues, but they were as you say behind closed doors and thus taboo. I think that if sex is repressed or suppressed, then the sexual energy has got to release somehow, somewhere...and I believe that is where porn and rape and incest and the like - have I missed anything - occurs. Certainly a hypocritical society and we have it too in the West. ;) <3

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    1. Oh yeah I agree with you! When it is suppressed is when it all comes pouring out :P

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  7. Every single human being is a hypocrite, me included. Some level of harmless hypocrisy is allowed. However the hypocrisy that exists about sex in our country is the worst. There should be another word for it.

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    1. Worst ever. Yeah, let us coin a new word.

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  8. hahahhahaa.....I have been up late nights for the past one month...and getting up late too... **wink **wink

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  9. Ahh the hypocrisy!!! there's no end to it, I feel even though the younger generation uses all kind of foul words, they are more liberal and mature with things related to women and life and matters of privacy. Since I don't have to deal with aunties and uncles, I consider myself lucky :P

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    1. Oh lucky lucky lucky and I can say that again, lucky you!

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  10. oh that's not all.. if you belong to a tier 2 city and are moving to a place like Bangalore, it is generally understood that u r bound to get spoiled.. you will have to hear stuffs like "tumhe bangalore ki hawa lag gaiye hai".. also it is understood that since u r living alone in bangalore, u must be having gls coming over ur flat and staying for the night.. and no one will ever believe that u can go alone on a vacation. there will always be some or the other gl accompanying you on ur vacation..

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    1. OMG! Thank God I atleast don't have to witness that!

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  11. Well said :)........Read my articles as well....@ khyatijain.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you! Off to your blog now.

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  12. Well-written and a much needed slap for such people! The new generation does things in the open and goes its way minding their business. We don't talk about it for hours, dissecting it to the detail. Because there is nothing to be discussed. But the people who do are the ones who make it a big deal when it is not actually.

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    1. Its disgusting to say the least. But they will continue.

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