Since my parents are pretty broad minded, I did not feel the generation gap much while growing up. Although they had their own set of assumptions and beliefs, nothing was imposed on us. They understood that times are no longer the same and they grew up with us as parents. They did not stay in the 80s while we were in the 2000s. But I did have quite a few friends whose parents were clearly from another era. They expected their kids to wake up in the morning before six, take a bath, pray to God and only then continue with the day. Six pm was the maximum time till when they could stay out. They were expected to wear certain clothes and not do anything fancy like roam around or spend time in coffee shops. I'm not talking about girls alone here. Some boys too were victims of the generation gap.
Why am I talking about this suddenly? Well, today I wore my favorite pair of ripped jeans and was headed out when quite a lot of people in my apartment gave me dirty looks. I smiled at them, but they looked at me top to bottom thinking "Poor girl, doesn't have enough money to buy new clothes?". As usual, I just ignored them and walked away. I'm very proud of my sense of fashion and I've someone who has evolved with the times. In terms of fashion and well as thinking mentality. The term generation gap doesn't only refer to people who are born in a different time frame or decades ago. There are also a certain set of people who are born as part of our generation, but their thinking is stuck back years ago. Such people are like the frog in a well and they have problems with everything that is not a part of their well. These kind of people are the ones who drive me up the wall.
I have always believed in one thing. As times change, we should do. We should adapt to the new situations and resources around us. I know it is difficult to get out of our comfort zone and adapt to something new, but we should. How else do we grow? Recently, I saw a few kids clearly in their teens driving around in a Hummer and smoking their lungs out. The first thing on my mind was WTF! Once when I shopping for lingerie, a few girls who looked no more than twenty were asking for bras that would enhance their cleavage. It would have been very easy to judge them and make a face, but I just let it be. Kids these days are so used to social media that they use that as a bible. The times are like that now, we can't do anything. Even when kids are super fashion conscious, they are very smart and hardworking. What matters is that they grow up to be good human beings, nothing else.
Generation Gap is often looked at like a bad word, but if you understand the actual meaning of it and adapt to the situations around you, it is a breeze. You do not have to act like your child's best friend and smother them. Just understand that they are born in different times and have a different thought process. It is important that you grow as parents along with your child and learn new things from them while unlearning a few old things.
The generation gap has to bridged from both ends, else it becomes a gaping hole.