Sadism


There are two kinds of people in the world. One, the ones who bear pain. Two, the ones who inflict pain.

Everyone likes to feel powerful. It kind of builds up an individual's personality. For a person to feel confident and secure, they need to exercise control on something or the other. It can be on themself or on something helpless. The gratification one derives from knowing that they have some kind of stupid, negligible power is enough to build up some amount of confidence in them.

The positive gratification is good and is very common. Knowing that you have control on your life, is an awesome feeling. Knowing that you mean at least something to some people is an accomplishment in itself. But trying to derive pleasure by forcing your power on something helpless is plainly sad. Its a psychological disorder. But the worse part is this disorder called sadism is present in every one of us. You just need to learn to suppress it. Else it spews out in all possible ways making life very unhealthy for you and for those around you. Sadism is a long existent quality. It just needs to be directed at the right ends.

Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation. I have always maintained that how a person is on the present day, all depends on the way they have been brought up. Their childhood. Whether they have been spoiled, loved or neglected; it all is gonna have an influence somewhere down the lane. And it need not be in good ways.

You see an insect, what do you do? Its a natural tendency to squish it. But more than half the people don't do that. Some let it go, and others hurt it and sit back to watch it die. When we were kids, it was fascinating to slowly pull out the tentacles of a dying cockroach, or it gave some kind of sadistic pleasure when you hear the crack when you step on one. But you have to grow up someday. Again, some people do, some don't.

A line in Jodi Picoult's "Nineteen Minutes" says, "Its a nice feeling to inflict pain on something/someone helpless. Until you realise that it is getting hurt". Cannot be more true. Just the thought that you have the capacity to influence someone's life is thrilling. But you just need to make sure you are directing it towards the positive end. If you cant give someone happiness, there is absolutely no need to substitute it with pain. Just let it be. Physical pain suddenly seems easily bearable when compared to the mental agony. Never make a person feel helpless or worthless. The repercussions it might have on a person's life later, will leave you shocked.

I personally don't do something knowing that it is going to hurt someone, until absolutely necessary. Heart breaks may not qualify as sadistic pleasures but it sure is a form of it and is something totally unavoidable. I'd rather lie to a person to save him from mental pain. I know I'm wrong, but I know how it feels when someone strikes on your mental strength. The mind is one hell of a dangerous thing. It can give you extreme pleasures when strong and heading towards the right way, but when the feeling of worthlessness is incepted; it kills you slowly, day by day.

I don't know why I'm writing this. I'm not the one to inflict pain and derive pleasure of it. Masochism is not my cup of tea. And again, I'm not the one to sit back and watch people manipulating my mind. I let a few people do it once, and it was a mini trip down the lane called hell. Every single person needs to build up their inner strength. Never feel inferior to anyone. At the same time, never feel superior either. Each one is gifted with something or the other. And one thing is for sure, If you can't love yourself no one else will. The more pain you bear, the more people tend to hurt. And as the old saying goes, the person who bears the pain is more at fault when compared to the ones who cause it.

2 comments:

  1. LOL! I want to echo your comment on my post now. :)

    Very nicely expressed what is one of life's important lessons!

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  2. I like the sound of this echo! :)
    Thanks..

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